Your Sex Dreams Decoded: What They Really Mean

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Your Sex Dreams Decoded: What They Really Mean
Learn how to decode last night's steamy imagery so you can enjoy sexier (real-life) sex tonight.

Ticket To Ride

"I'm in the airport waiting for my flight, and a man sits next to me and starts chatting," says Dina, 29, a writer. "The next thing I know, he pulls me to him and we start making out. It's so intense and passionate that we start having sex right under the chairs. There are people around, but we don't care. Then I have the biggest orgasm, and my dream ends. The funniest thing was that I never even saw the guy's face."

The expert analysis
This is a sex dream that's probably not about sex. "It's most likely about Dina feeling successful," says Carol L. Cummings, a dream analyst in Tucson, Arizona. "Airports embody our desire to take off for higher places," she says. "Dina's dream tells me she's ready to embark on a new aspect of either her sexual relationship or her life." The facelessness of the man could be Dina's way of protecting herself, maybe because she's not prepared to confront her desires.

What else it could mean
If you make it onto the plane and become a member of the mile-high club in your dreams, consider yourself truly lucky: It's a sign that you find your sexual relationship fulfilling. Intercourse with a faceless stranger is standard sex-dream fare. It could be that you're trying to figure out what you want in a lover (or in yourself).

Female Bonding

"I dreamed I went to a coffee shop and ordered a cappuccino," says Jan, a divorced 37-year-old hospital technician. "While I waited I noticed brilliant sunshine streaming through the windows. A woman caught my eye, so I took my cappuccino and sat next to her. As I sipped, the froth spilled over my lips — it was going everywhere. She smiled, then leaned over and started licking my cheeks, lips and neck to get all the froth off. Before I knew it we were kissing and caressing each other. I've never had a lesbian encounter, but this felt fantastic."

The expert analysis
No subtlety here. "The frothing cappuccino clearly symbolizes Jan's sexual needs bubbling up inside her, and the woman licking her face and lips is a symbol of her desire for a woman to perform oral sex on her," says Spurr, who adds that Jan, her client, has had fantasies about making love to a woman while having sex with her former husband. "The sunshine breaking through is like a wake-up call for Jan of these new feelings," Spurr adds.

What else it could mean
If you've never had waking fantasies or thoughts about sex with a woman, a lesbian sex dream could mean you're embracing a part of yourself you've lost sight of (such as your youthful exuberance) or hadn't previously acknowledged (like a growing sense of self-confidence).

Star-Crossed Lovers

"Around the time Titanic came out, I had a dream that I was having sex with Leonardo DiCaprio on a stoop in Queens, New York, in broad daylight when my father and grandmother walked by," says Cathy, 34, a journalist. "I don't have a crush on Leo, and I've never lived in Queens. My dad and grandmother stared at me, and I stared back, but we didn't say anything, and I didn't stop getting it on with Leo."

The expert analysis
Gisele needn't worry about the competition. Although DiCaprio represents romantic love, "this dream is not about sex," Cummings says. "It's about Cathy feeling judged by the people close to her." Cathy may sense pressure from her family to be a good girl. But making love in broad daylight and not stopping when her relatives walk by shows that she's feeling confident in her sexuality.

What else it could mean
With any celebrity dream, ask yourself what qualities you associate with that individual (either the actor personally or the characters he plays). It could be that the star represents something you admire and aspire to in yourself or want in a lover, such as bravery or more romance. As for relatives in dreams: Don't stress too much if Great-Uncle Howie nabs a supporting role. Family members often make an appearance and usually represent a subliminal link between our current sexual beliefs and the beliefs we were taught in childhood. If family reunions frequently happen in your sex dreams, you may want to explore your attitudes about relationships and any conflicting internalized lessons you've learned about men, sex and love while growing up. Keep reading...

This article was originally published at Self. Reprinted with permission.