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Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You


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There are definite signs that your ex boyfriend still loves you and you must look out for these if you are thinking of winning him back. Before you make moves to get him back you will have to know if he is willing to get back together, otherwise you could end up making a huge fool of yourself. The good news is that there are ways to read his body language and decipher what he says. This will make you understand exactly what is going on in his mind and what he thinks about you now.

It doesn't matter how long ago your break up was, you will still be able to tell whether your ex boyfriend still loves you or has feelings for you. Even if he doesn't like it, your ex boyfriend will be giving off lots of signals that he is still interested in you. These can either be outward physical signs, or more subconscious ones. No matter how hard he tries to hide his real feelings, they will still be obvious once you know how to look for them. It is human nature to show these things and he won't be able to stop himself.

This actually puts you in a really good position. You don't want to go straight up to him and ask him outright if he still loves you. You have too much self respect for that. This way you can read his body language and how he reacts to certain things, and when you do it will be so clear how he feels about you. If you are trying to win him back, reading these signs and acting upon them is essential. That is why you should pay close attention to the following clues.

He Stays In Touch With You

When a guy is not interested in you anymore he will just walk away. It is that simple. He will not want to hurt you anymore by staying around or lead you on when he knows that it is not going anywhere. On the other hand, whenever a guy stays in touch with you after he broke up with you, it is a very good sign. Essentially, he still values you and what you had enough to keep you around. It shows that he is not ready to give you up completely.

When your ex boyfriend does this it is a clear indication that he is not over you yet 100% and wants to keep you in his life on some level. Even if he doesn't want you back right now and is confused about his feelings, it still shows that he is keeping the possibility of a reconciliation open in the future. Think about this, if he cut all ties with you now it would be almost impossible for him to get you back again in the future and he knows this.

He Calls You Regularly

Okay, so we have established that when he keeps in touch with you after the break up, it is a sure sign that he still loves you. What if he has disappeared for a while and then suddenly gets back in touch though? When your ex boyfriend suddenly calls you up out of the blue after a long time, he has some kind of ulterior motive. It probably took a lot of guts for him to be able to call you, so it means that getting in touch with you again was very important to him.

Your ex boyfriend will either want to see you again, or he is ringing to test the waters and ascertain how you are feeling about him now. If there is no other way for him to find out about how you are or what you are doing, this will be the only way for him to do it. He also might be trying to work out if you are back on the dating scene again or how you react to him in general. Even if he assures you that he is just calling to say hello, you know yourself that there is more to it than this. Watch out for this sign that he is still in love with you, because it means that he is attempting to reconnect and find a way back to you.

He Wants To Meet Up With You

Ostensibly this may seem like a really positive sign that your ex boyfriend still has feelings for you, however, you have to be careful that he wants to meet up with you for the right reasons. Lots of girls who are still in love with their exes make the mistake of sleeping with them as soon as they show the slightest bit of interest in them again. You have to be sure that he wants to meet up with you for a genuine reason and isn't just interested in easy sex. If you find that this is all that he is interested in then you should tell him where to go and maybe find yourself someone who treats you with respect. The last thing that you want to happen is to end up feeling used and him seeing you as just a meal ticket.

Okay, so you have established that he is sincere in his request to meet up with you, what does this actually mean? Well he might want to tell you something or say that he misses you. Don't jump into the deep end too quickly here though if you want to get him back, let the meeting be lighthearted and breezy not to put any pressure on you both. Guys will rarely want to meet up with their ex girlfriends out of guilt, especially after a long time has passed. It is a clear sign that he misses you and wants to spend some time with you again. Watch out for flirting and other signs that he still loves you. They will be easier to spot once you are both together.

Your Next Steps

Now that you understand some of the signs to look out for, your next move is to make him attracted to you again. Even if he is not showing any of the above signs yet, there are ways to speed up the reconciliation process if you learn how to make him want you back.

After that you should really think about using Facebook to reignite his desire for you and making him see you as a potential girlfriend again. You can start using loads of proven Facebook techniques to make him get in touch with you and create jealousy in him. The best thing about it is that he doesn't even know that you are doing it as they are really subtle techniques. Lots of girls are using these secret strategies now to win back their ex boyfriends.

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