7 Ways To Make Your Sex Life Hilarious (And Why That's Healthy!)

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7 Ways To Make Your Sex Life Hilarious (And Why That's Healthy)
You don't have to be a comedian to add some LOL to your sex life: It will deepen your intimacy.

Laughter adds both sexual and emotional intimacy to a relationship. When you play and laugh you become fully present, which allows you to connect. Most people have a tendency to live in the past, dwelling on negative emotions like anger and regret—or they fret about the future. According to a Harvard University study by Killingsworth and Gilbert, adults spend only about 50 percent of their time in the present moment. The researchers discovered that people spend the other 50 percent with their mind wandering, and that "a wandering mind is an unhappy mind." On the other hand, they concluded that a "present" mind is generally joyful—thus, laughing and playing adds happiness to a relationship.

Have you ever noticed how much energy and enthusiasm children have? One of the reasons for this is because they laugh a lot. They don't spend much time worrying or thinking negative thoughts, which exhaust us and weigh us down. When your energy is light and happy your partner will be much more drawn to you, creating a positive environment for emotional and sexual intimacy.

 

Laughter also creates connection, one of the top things people complain is missing from their relationship. Dr. Barbara Fredrickson of the University of North Carolina found that positive emotion expands our visual attention and socialness, improving our ability to connect with others. It also helps to relax the mind—so laughing and playing is a great way for couples to get "unstuck" and dissolve tension.

Being playful helps you connect with the happy part of your innermost self. When you are in this space, you start communicating from your heart instead of your head, pulling your partner in because he or she can feel you, thus creating connection and deeper intimacy.

Many studies have shown that when we laugh, joke, and act silly, there is a mutual desire to let go, be happy, and love with an underlying benefit of feeling like you belong. So if you are looking to deepen your relationship and improve your sex life, start laughing. Forget your fears, step outside your comfort zone, and let your silly side shine through. As you become more open and inviting, your sex life will soar!

If you would like more tips and success strategies, feel free to contact me through my website, www.SexyandSparkling.com—you'll find a gift waiting for you!

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Sherri Nickols

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