Although you may try something new in bed when your friends admit to trying it, this doesn't necessarily mean that you'll have the same mind-blowing experience that your friend described. "Some of my clients end up feeling confused because they didn't have an equal experience to the one their friends had," says Dr. Buehler. "And, although your friend and her partner were both willing to trying something new, this may not be the case for you and your partner. They may be more hesitant or conservative."
If you want to try out a new move but are unsure of how to bring it up, Cinéas recommends using knowledge of what your partner responds to in order to present your idea. For example, if your partner tends to be more conservative, offering him research that has been done on a particular position may make him more comfortable with your suggestion. According to Cinéas, this is a better approach than telling him that you want to try it because a friend told you that it worked. However, if you're dating someone who is more free-spirited, simply bringing it up and being excited about it may be enough to convince them that they should give it a shot.
The next time you’re at girl’s night and find yourself on the topic of sex, Dr. Buehler recommends taking everything that is said with a grain of salt. “People aren’t always truthful about sex,” she says. To avoid feelings of resentment, psychologist and author Dr. Susan Bartell suggests asking questions about your friends' relationships rather than how often they have sex. "Do they keep a date night, or spend time each night talking about their day?" she asks. "The answers to questions like these are more likely to guide you and your partner down the right path.”