In my line of work as a dating/relationship coach, I come across time and again how women can't just sit back and relax and let guys lead the whole process of courtship as I believe nature intends us to do. Women get impatient and insecure very quickly and they don't realize how controlling, pushy and unattractive their vibe is to the guys who actually found them attractive in the beginning. A lot of them even act psychotic by practically stalking the guys with repeated texts, phone calls, unannounced visit to their houses, etc.
Does that sound familiar to yourself?
Remember the last time you just couldn't help but obsessing about a guy you are so attracted to? How did it work for you?
Right. He ran for the hills and you never heard back from him (there are ways to reverse the situation if you have done all the mistakes that not only you'll fix the broken relationship but also inspire him to move it to the next level of commitment, here's how).
Bottom line is guys don't like to be chased even if at first they really liked you. But you are so fearful that you think the only way to keep him close is by hounding him.
No, men are like pigeons: when you just sit back and relax with the inviting feminine energy you are naturally gifted with, they will come and flock to eat out of your hand. What an apt and beautiful analogy that is, right?
Many women love to chase because it activates their brain center that is telling them they are in love and the great highs that come from that feeling in love. Often though, women fall head over heels in love with their IDEA of the man or his POTENTIAL, not the real him. This is also why once the man is "caught" many women lose that feeling of "crazy in love" that is induced by the uncertainty. Once they feel safe, the highs wane and they think they are no longer in love or boredom sets in. In my opinion, this is the background why it is mostly women who file for divorce.
Guys might be slow in the beginning, but once they go through the initial resistance of committing, they get comfortable and are settling in the relationship only to find their women don't fancy them as much anymore as the time when they hadn't committed and had to be "chased."
Women who are chasers are thrill seekers. They are not going to be stable enough to stay in any relationship. And very likely they are also emotionally unavailable. That's why they always tend to chase or pine for emotionally unavailable or emotionally distant men. Keep Reading...
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