Should We Be Worried About Ben and Jen’s Marriage?

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Should We Be Worried About Ben and Jen’s Marriage?
An analysis of Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner's relationship based on non-verbal cues

Finally, Jen did a shoulder shrug when Ben said, “It’s a lot of work, but it’s the best kind of work.” This shrug demonstrates complete agreement. She knows he’s speaking the truth and saying it with all the love in the world. Relationships do require a bit of work, especially in the hectic celebrity world.

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Now, let’s move on to Ben’s non-verbal cues during his Oscar speech. First, you will see Ben do a double-take (look twice at Jen or at least in her direction), as if he was almost reminded to thank her in his speech. In this case, the spontaneous nature actually made his speech more from the heart rather than prepared or scripted.

When Ben mentions her name, his voice cracks slightly. As we all know, when we are very emotional, our voices will sometimes crack. Usually, it’s in an effort to hold back further emotions like tears. We will see this happen again at the end of his speech when he thanks his kids.

One other thing worth mentioning is that Ben has open arms when he says, “There’s no one I rather work with.” This motion tells me that he truly means what he says. Open arms when talking is a clear sign of trustworthiness. We might not think of work meaning love, but for this celebrity couple, “work” means just that.

SNL is where we see that everything is okay between the twosome. Before Ben brings Jen out, he speaks about the public and media misunderstanding his statement that their marriage is work (around 2:00). When Ben says, “That’s just not it,” he also starts to shake his head no. His non-verbal cues are reinforcing his words, a clear sign that he’s telling the truth. So I can immediately confirm that he didn’t mean anything but love for Jen in his speech.

When his wife comes on stage (about 2:30), both of them show strong eye contact right from the beginning – a primary sign of intimacy and romantic chemistry. If they weren’t so connected, Ben would have been more involved with the audience. Instead, they both light up when they see each other. It almost seems like they’re distracted by one another’s presence – a sure sign of true love, especially when on television. When the duo hugs and kisses hello, Ben’s right hand moves to Jen’s lower back as he rubs her. People who are very attracted to each other usually show it by touching the lower back, and rubbing is a very intimate and comforting non-verbal gesture.