Dictionary.com defines Whore as(noun): 1 A woman who engages in promiscuous sexual intercourse, usually for money; prostitute; harlot; strumpet. (Understanding Why Men Treat Some Women Like Queens and Others like Whores) I know you all like free t-shirts and concert tickets from V103, Power 106, 94.7 the Wave or whatever your favorite radio station is. But men are not the radio. Ladies, if you cannot truly offer to leave a tip after a nice dinner then you should not go on the date. Suggest something like, “How about I save you some money. Let's go to the grocery store and I will make you a home-cooked meal (10 Dating Tips on How to Be Different From the Competition!).” The whole point is, you have to do something besides look pretty or you are “ho-ing.” If the man insists on spending his money, it’s okay for you to accept, but know that now he is your ho. It is what it is "Big Willy". Trust, if you really want to find out what’s on a prospective Man of your Dreams’ (MOYD) mind, test him. Ask him this simple question: “Hey Bob, instead of you taking me to dinner, how about you just give me the cash, and I will be your dessert?” The truth will be revealed in his response, which nine times out of 10 will be, “Okay, Suzy, I really wasn't hungry anyhow. I am a dessert man.” Bob just told you that his priority is to have sex with you. It’s the major reason he is taking you out and paying for your dinner. This is how most men think, with our third leg first, then rationalize our actions later. Would he have had the same desire if you were just a friend? He’d say, “Suzy, I have to call it a night. I have an assignment due in the morning.” In that case, Bob does not want any sexual gratification from you. But usually, if we don’t get “dessert,” we think, "Why did i just spend four hours at dinner, when I have an assignment for work due in the morning?" Women compound the problem by playing into our little trap. There are no free lunches. Everybody wants something, including you. A man knows you want to eat and drink, and just like a genie in the bottle, he will grant your wish to get what he wants: “Eat and drink good, you shall!" He’s thinking, “Yes, she is falling right into my dinner plans,” and you, meanwhile, are thinking, "Another free meal!" You have a plan to eat, and he has a plan to get you into bed, maybe not today, but certainly tomorrow. Again, there are no free lunches. Now, the whole point of this is to even out the playing field and help you gain our respect as a human being, instead of as a whore. Why? Because women who are considered productive human beings are sought after and go on to become wives. To end any thought the MOYD might have of you being the next girl on his booty-call list, throw a curveball and see if he can hit it. As a general rule, never go on a date without some type of equal exchange of energy. It could be a simple as baking cookies, meaning, if he is willing to pay for dinner, you should be willing to pay for dessert or sacrifice yourself. If he has a high-paying job and you are making minimum wage, it is right for him to treat, but it is also right for you to leave the tip. Otherwise, in his mind your lacking class, consideration, and your indirectly being purchased for a $50 meal, . Don’t worry, we are not judging you.
Steve Harvey developed Delightful, an online dating service for women to make them "more dateable." Right. Because women are the problem, not men who have been divorced twice, married a woman with whom they cheated on their second spouse, and think mustaches are a good idea.
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