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Is It OK To Fantasize About Someone Else During Sex?


The Sinclair Institute's Dr. Lori Buckley shares her insight into sexual fantasies.

Do you fantasize about someone else when you have sex with your partner? Are you wondering if this is unhealthy for your relationship? If so, help is on the way.

In this video, sex and relationship therapist and YourTango Expert Dr. Lori Buckley of the Sinclair Institute says that fantasies are normal and totally healthy. "Fantasies are something that most of us (if not all of us) have," she says, "and they're such a great way to enhance our level of arousal." However, she points out one situation where fantasies can cause problems in your relationship.

Want to learn more? Check out the video above.


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