I'm guilty of playing within my comfort zone and Hussey's program is certainly helping me break out of that protective shell. Last week I bought a soccer jersey for the Irish National team for my friend Declan on his birthday. Two days latter I got a Seattle Seahawks sports shirt for another guy friend named Thor because he too was celebrating a birthday. Declan looks like Ronan Keating and Thor is a doppelganger for Michael Fassbender. As much as I like them as people and agree they are attractive inside and out, I don't fancy them. So it's easy to show my platonic appreciation for Sean and Thor along with my vulnerabilities, insecurities, and very sensitive side that spends an hour or more a night networking German Shepherds on social media in need of rescue. When it's a guy I am smitten with it's like fear comes up so strong I put up a kind of armour that has me appear stoic and cold. They are safe but when it comes to attracting and keeping a long-term romantic relationship you have step beyond your fear to make one message clear to a man: make a move on me/take a chance on me.
Contrary to popular belief Matthew Hussey is a human dynamics expert not a dating guru. That’s the essence behind the success of Get the Guy. Hussey coaches his clients in the art of maximizing every interaction through the many layers that comprise an exchange between two people. It’s a cleaver series of interactions done effectively that triggers attraction. If you follow Hussey’s advice you just may never be “friends zoned” ever again unless you want to be.
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Being friends means having enough things in common. Cultivating attraction is about forging deep connection combined with sexual tension. One must be courageous to be the later because it requires being willing to do things most people are afraid of. So why are a lot of single women fearful of going beyond the safe zone of discussing shared hobbies with a man who is utterly hot to them? Fear of rejection. As Hussey pointed out at the start of his live event, rejection is going to happen, learn to be resilient and don’t’ stop until you get your guy.
Being proactive is risky but a calculated risk can reap a huge reward romantically. This is where Hussey’s workshops get very interesting. He breaks down the Attraction Formula in action with live demonstrations on the art of proper body language. Subtle non-verbal cues can change how others perceive you in an instant. A series of subtle shifts in behavioral signals leads to sudden and often dramatic ways in how approachable a man sees you. The right combination of body language directed at a man can make or break whether he sees you as a siren or his sister.
Why is this so important? As much as you fear his rejection he possibly fears yours with equal intensity. So, give your heart and his … a break rather than a heartbreak of a missed opportunity. Master the right “come hither” look that lets him knows it’s safe to approach you.
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My personal lesson at the Get the Guy live event in San Francisco was … the next time a guy tells me that people say he looks like Colin Farrell my response will be, “I totally agree. I noticed right away but didn’t want to say anything because I find you hot for you, not who you celebrity twin is.”