When a guy really likes you, and you say “yes” at the right time, when the momentum or energy burst is at its strongest point, the relationship will be in your favor. What happens is most women fail in their relationships because they fail to understand the Principle of Momentum. No, this does not mean you have to sleep with him, but it does mean that when he asks you out and you say no because you and the girls are hanging out, with each no you give him, you slowly lose momentum. The excitement he had for you in the beginning, that could have easily carried the relationship for the next 20 years, begins to fade. Saying “yes” at the right time is imperative to your future success with the Man of your Dreams.
Here’s a playback of what happens inside the mind of a man: He was really focused on you when you first met, but with each “no” you gave him, his mind, dreams and attention went elsewhere, and by the time you said “yes,” he is like, “okay.” But his energy is not the same, and now the relationship is more in his favor, and soon you are wondering why you are not a priority in his life anymore. He is now trying to get away from you instead of pursuing you. What a switch! And of course your complaint is that he does not spend enough quality time with you, but you forget that in the beginning, when he was asking to spend time with you, it was more important for you to hang out with your girls. Now he wants to hang out with his guy friends.
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Remember, in the beginning, it was you who provided the example that hanging with your girls at the sports bar on a Friday night was okay, and therefore it was you who originally set the tone and momentum. Everything else in your life was always more important than spending any quality time with him. Ladies, men subconsciously remember how you first treated them, and it will later come back to bite you in the booty. So know what you want from the start and be aware of the example you are setting for any future MOYD conduct. One potential reason women lose the momentum in a relationship is because they fail to understand how to use their beauty in their favor. Saying “yes” at the right time is everything to a man who really likes you. (Perfect Love? Pres. Barack and Michelle Obama) In addition, you may have failed to realize or perhaps took it for granted that all your man needed to hear was you saying “yes,” and that “yes” would have filled him with such happiness that you could do no wrong, ever, so much so that it would take a thousand men and women to tell him something to the contrary. Example: “Hey, Teddy, we saw your girl out last night with some guy at the sports bar. “Nah, man, that was not my girl.” You can do no wrong!
Now, when you have lost the momentum in a relationship, it seems like almost everything you do is wrong. Men are simple, so if you want to create a successful relationship with a man just KISS (keep it simple, stupid), because later in the relationship, you certainly do not want him thinking you are immature, irresponsible or make bad choices.