How should you "speak"? Should emoticons, acronyms or pictures be used?
"Emoticons are great when you're flirtexting™," says Davis, "but just sending a wink isn't gonna do it." If you're unsure of what to write, try a short romantic poem, like a haiku. After all, when's the last time you wrote or received a haiku from someone? Sweet and unexpected? Check and check.
Also, try to avoid acronyms. There's a place for your OMGs and your ROTFLs — and it's in a text to your gal pal, not in a sexy text to your main squeeze!
It's definitely a good idea to send photos while flirtexting™. Davis gives this great example: "My fiancé and I we weren't together on our six-month anniversary. He went to the place we had our first date and took a picture of the pizza we had eaten together. Photos, or even Vine videos, are a really cute way to flirtext, especially if you're not together for the next 24 or 48 hours."
Flirtexting™: How much is too much?
When flirtexting™ happens daily at the same time with the exact same message, or when you two say the same things over and over, you’re defeating the purpose: spontaneity! Switch things up — perhaps send song lyrics that you both love or a photo of a park you promise you'll take your partner to this weekend.
"The coolest thing about flirtexting™ is that you never know when it's going to happen," says Davis. "If it happens every day and becomes part of your routine, it doesn't feel like flirtexting™ anymore because it doesn't have that element of surprise that makes you glow."
Davis advises to pay attention to the way your partner is responding. In person, it's by his body language; via text message, it's a bit more ambiguous. You kind of have to trust your gut, go with the flow and try to "read between the lines." If you think you’re overdoing it, you probably are. At that point, take a step back and enjoy the unspoken, flirtatious dynamic you've created together.