Have you ever experienced the freedom and the annoyance of a long distance relationship?
It’s just not easy, and it needs a lot of effort.
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If you’re facing a prospective long distance relationship and are wondering how to handle it or even get through it, here’s everything you need to know.
How to make a long distance relationship work
Firstly, have a frank discussion with your sweetheart. What do you guys want to do about it?
Do you want to put your relationship on hold until you’re both within the same pin code or do you want to take a chance with long distance dating?
Remember, you won’t really have a perfect relationship when you’re hundreds or thousands of miles away from each other.
So if you really do think that both of you are perfect for each other, give it a go.
But if you’re not really convinced by long distance love or the dearth of sexual intimacy, let your point be known.
But all said and done, if true love wins and both of you are here for the long haul, use these tips on holding a long distance relationship together even when you’re both miles apart and you’ll be able to make it work.
Talk often, more than you ever have
Both of you can’t really meet every evening or even every week anymore. So there’s just no communication and small talk. And every great relationship needs that. Spend more time talking to each other and keep each other in the loop about your lives. Unless either of you get annoyed with regular calls, speak often with each other. And don’t skip out all those little intimate details like what you had for dinner, what color is your underwear and which side of your bed you’re facing.
After all, if you can’t take a peek into each other’s lives, the next best thing to keep love alive is to hear about every intimate detail.
Get some face to face time
While emotional intimacy is paramount for a successful relationship, a bit of face time can do wonders too. Get on the webcam, drop a few love notes off occasionally for each other, send pictures of each other doing crazy things (just not nude crazy things), and make a point to get on skype and take a good look at each other at least a few times a week. An occasional peek of privates when you’re sure no one’s around can help too!
Meet as frequently as possible
It may be hard to meet often if you’re on an expedition in the Amazon or living a thousand miles away, but no matter what the distance, try to schedule a prospective date to meet. And try to meet as often as you both can.
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When you fix a date for the next meeting, it’ll keep the excitement alive even if the meeting is several months away. And as long as both of you take an initiative to meet up, both of you will feel good about it.
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