Does Jock Culture Breed Bad Boys?


Does Jock Culture Breed Bad Boys?
Is the Steubenville Rape Trial the latest proof that jocks are dangerous on dates?

Fluent in three languages, during his summer holidays, Thor would workout with a Swedish soccer steam in Stockholm with his cousin. Outside sports, he was involved in the finance and math club while competing in intercollegiate debates. Thor had a perfect score on the math section of the SAT, was on full academic scholarship throughout his four years earning his Bachelor's, and his GPA was a steady 4.0. When it came to women, Thor has his pick of the flock, but he fundamentally sees females as people. He told me he is looking for someone like his mother. While I didn't date Thor I knew that his romantic history included an engagement one romantic night in Washington, DC and a near elopement. Even at 23 Thor was capable of commitment. Their relationship ended because she wouldn't move from L.A. to be closer to him and long-distance is hard.

Thor had a steady temperament. Never really got mad. He would become annoyed but would shake it off. Thor had a calm grounded kind of confidence. Even when we would disagree he would re-direct the conversation if it got too heated or he felt it could escalate to a passionate debate. Never one did I see his jawline clench, his arm muscles flex, or his face turn red with rage instead of shyness. Thor related to me as myself and could understand how living in different countries made my perspective unique. Instead of resorting to control Thor just knew his truth and it was not threatening to him for another person to disagree. Thor could read The Economist, speak German, and knew his value. He was not a jock in any which way because of his slow to anger, didn't act like he was physically entitled with any woman he was attracted to, and never raised his hand to grab or shake me.

The key distinction between jock versus athlete as exemplified by the two people above: Thor was part of a team when he was a college athlete but he thought for himself. Unlike Andy who only had cognition when he was hanging out with his fellow kind. The kind who felt it ok to shove and push their girlfriends because they lacked internal self regulation. Just like Neanderthals who grabbed women by the hair and dragged them back to the cave to reproduce. Men like Thor have the verbal and social-emotional skills to seduce a woman and put her under his spell. A jock resorts to brute force and their fellow cavemen encourage and reward them for it.