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Hard times in love? That’ll make the victory of finding your true love that much sweeter...

We had the honor and the privilege to be invited to the lovely home of one of our clients last weekend. We got to sit down with her and her soulmate husband, and to snuggle with their little baby too. It was so fun and yet so tender and meaningful for all of us… because we remember when she first started working with us about 2 years ago.

2 short years. Not that long ago, really.

She had tears in her eyes as she recounted her journey to soulmate love with us. As she spoke, I looked at her loving, adoring and kind husband, and her beautiful baby boy, started to cry myself…. and we all agreed the journey had been sooooooo WORTH IT.

“Here we are at her wedding!”

She had been married before and had a painful, hurtful ending to that marriage, had made some tough choices about her career, and was 40 years old, and thinking she would never have a child, though she dearly wanted one.

What was the thing that made all the difference for her? How did she do it?

Well, what she did was she took a good, hard look at her life, and saw that although her family was pressuring her to get married, her friends were also single and wondering “what’s up with men these days?”…she realized that they weren’t actually HELPING her. Maybe because they didn’t know how. They cared, but sometimes caring isn’t enough. This was especially tough for her to come to terms with, coming from a close Indian family – she was and is close to her family – and at the same time wanting to chart her own path in her life.

She decided that there must be more to life than just getting by, struggling to feel like herself, even as she had professional success (she’s a doctor), and it seemed like she should “have it all together” she didn’t quite feel that way.

She stumbled across us and decided that she was ready for help and support… she learned about our Love Breakthrough Course and though she had doubts, fears and worries, she just WENT for it, trusting herself, and trusting that the universe always had her back. She had never done a course like this before, but she registered very soon after she learned about it, jumped in and participated at her 100%.

And with the healing, the exercises, the information, and the tools provided in that course as a foundation, she began to love herself more, she decided to take her self love and learning further, joined us at a live Love Breakthrough Weekend, and became a committed student of soulmate love, and of being her real self, comfortable being herself.

Other than med school, she said she had never taken anything so seriously, but unlike med school, this was fun and easier than she thought.

She teared up as she and her husband -their lovely baby boy always in someone’s arms – walked around their home and showed us the areas in her home where other women in our community contributed to her new life, her being her real self, and how much our teachings changed her perspective, her experiences, and her life.

She even offered to be interviewed by us for women in the telecourse who are committed to love, but who might be afraid of their old habits, the “mistakes” they’ve made, and could use a dose of inspiration, and seeing that it’s really possible to change the direction your love life is going. She’s a busy new mom, wife, and still a practicing doctor, but we’re working out the details to make that interview happen.

So today’s article is really just me sharing with you this story of “if she can do it you can do it”. And that’s the truth. She felt like she might be too old for love, too old to have a child, too broken around relationships, had too bad of a “picker’ after her first marriage was so painful…yet she believed…that if we could do it, she could too, she just had to learn how.

You can too. No matter your age. No matter your life experience. No matter what your well meaning friends and family say. And no matter what those “gremlins” in your own head say – let me say it again – if she can do it, you can too. Really. And if you have had hard times in love…that’ll make the victory of finding your true love that much sweeter, you’ll appreciate it more, believe me. I do. She does. You will too.

“The truth that many people never understand, until it is too late, is that the more you try to avoid suffering the more you suffer because smaller and more insignificant things begin to torture you in proportion to your fear of being hurt.” – Thomas Merton

P.S.: Johnny and I have the amazing opportunity to speak in the Remembering Our Magic teleseminar series where we will be joining with twenty other speakers to reveal the magic of how to heal what holds you back, harness your greatness, and take that greatness global! Watch this short VIDEO to learn more, read about it, and register here.

P.P.S.: It’s 2013…we’re living in a new world. Why do “experts” still talk about “finding love” the same way they did decades ago? You’re invited to “The 4 REAL Reasons Why Your Love Life is Stalled: Don’t Base Your Modern Day Soulmate Search On Twenty Year Old Advice!” This is a totally FREE Love Training Call that will change your life forever. Join us this Saturday, March 16th at 10:00am PST/1:00pm EST. Get the Call-In Information by clicking HERE. You can even send us a question in advance by going HERE.

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