For deeper clues as to why love may be elusive and how you are causing it to be so, check out Inner Bonding by Dr. Margaret Paul. For those who simply needs tactics, something that Alice's books and seminars are not as focused on, Dr. Diana Kirschner of Find True Love in 90 Days is the book for you. Matthew Hussey, the real life Hitch (as in the movie starring Will Smith), seems to be able to help women generate real results with numbers that back up his claims. His new book talks all about success in offline dating: Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve. One thing that stands out about Matthew Hussey and Debi Berndt is that they offer a money back guarantee so the risk is not so great as far as your cash is concerned at least.
Finally, Kathryn Alice "trains and certifies love coaches" who offer "one-on-one coaching" to those who are keen on her work and ready to meet their soulmate. Just like what I observed in her teleseminar what I have gathered so far about her coaches is that they appear to all speak the same mantra. When someone asks what else they can do to remove obstacles to love their response is all the same: You get love because you want love. Depending on your viewpoint, this is either an empowering statement or a repetitive one. Many people have desired love but many still are not partnered so perhaps Alice and her coaches' answer to that is: If you are not with your soulmate during your life you will meet at the Pearly Gates and be together then. That is, if you believe there is such a thing as a soul that lives on when the body dies. I'm willing to bet that that all single people would want their soulmate here and now on Earth while they are living. I guess those who are lazy can't complain because none of their efforts count since they are not doing the real inner work according to Alice.
My point is ... not sure I want to take the entire range of advice from anyone and put their thoughts above my own 100% and 100% of the time because life is full of surprises and what works for one person may have no effect on another. Just like medicine. Some bacteria are resistant to powerful antibiotics and not others. It's about finding what works for you. Alice has talked about women getting pregnant with their own eggs at 57 and giving birth to healthy kids. It happens but it's not the standard. Don't gamble with your life by listening to everyone's advice.In this regards, Alice could be seen as promoting "the price of hope" that was written about in Fabulous Magazine.
So what is the price of hope: for some it is a feeling of failure as others in the dating program find someone easily compared to them and are told it's their fault they're still single. Or its the tears and sadness that one person can be reduced to after being told by Alice that they were lazy. Even though the statement was not personal to them (at least that is what Alice said when she learned about the impact of her words. Something that Religious Science Practitioners are trained in - the power of words), how else are they supposed to interpret Alice when she responded directly to their question in writing with "People who don't manifest are lazy. They are substituting external work for the deep inner work needed to resolve their resistance to love."
On a final note, Alice's office sent this reply in response to an Amazon review about the "lazy" comment: I hope you are doing super well. We saw your review on Amazon recommending other things besides Kathryn's work, and we want you to know that when Kathryn says you are lazy, she means not just you but many who are not stopping to do the work and just act too soon. She is making a point. We hope you have not taken offense or her work has not negatively affected you.
Maybe the poet Rainer Maria Rilke had a better approach, one that he never charged for, which was, "Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart. And try to love the questions themselves."