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Online Dating Mistakes Men Make

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Online Dating Mistakes Men Make
Dudes, avoid these cyber pitfalls

It happens to the best of us: We’re involved in a great relationship, it goes sour, we break up and then immediately head to an online dating site to find a replacement. But in our haste to find someone new, we sometimes project the “bad” from our ex onto our potential new matches. For instance, if you love food and discovering new restaurants, but your ex was super-annoying because she was vegan and hated eating out, you might say, “I don’t want to be with a vegan.” However, there may an incredible woman who loves dining out and can introduce you to great restaurants you hadn’t known about before -- who happens to be vegan.

Just because you had one (or two, or three) bad experiences with a certain “trait” in a woman, it doesn’t necessarily mean every other woman with a similarity is a bad choice for you.

If you’ve set your filter to find only women between the ages of 25 and 35, for instance, you may be missing out on an amazingly smart, funny, gorgeous 36-year old. Listen, maybe there are certain things you simply cannot handle -- like someone who does drugs -- but consider re-thinking your lists of “must-haves” and “deal breakers.” You could be unknowingly filtering out The One.

Disregarding chivalry

So, your photos look good and your emails struck the right chord, and now you’re on your way to the first date, or “meet and greet.” We’re just gonna come out and say it: Guys, pay for the date. Choose an activity that doesn’t cost much so you’re not overspending.

Suggest a walk around a local park or a coffee date. Yes, women these days are very independent and most of us make a living of our own, but a small act of chivalry speaks volumes.

If your date absolutely insists on paying for herself, fine. But otherwise, disregard whatever you’ve read about going Dutch and just Pay. For. The. Date. It’s a sweet gesture.

Related:Two approaches to get the most out of online dating

Failing at follow-through

Had an awesome time on your first date? You may be tempted to send her 18 texts before she’s even left the parking lot. Show a little more restraint than that, but don’t play the “wait three days before texting” game, either. That just makes us think you’re not that interested.

Tell her at the end of the date that you had a great time and that you look forward to seeing her again. And then, maybe the next day, give her a call and set up the next date. Hearing your voice is so much nicer than getting a text that says “luv to see u again sumtym.”

Give some thought to a second date that would make this particular woman smile (don’t just take her to the place you take all your second dates – customize the experience to something this woman will like), and you can thank us later if the two of you end up happily ever after. Ur vry welcome.

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