The unfortunate thing is that those going through a midlife crisis will vehemently deny that it’s what’s happening to them. Or, on the other hand, they will laugh you off for even suggesting it.
From experience, observation, and studying the subject, I’ve found at that they seem to all sing from the same song sheet. Someone suggested that it’s like a midlife crisis alien virus takes over their system. Some of the likely symptoms are presented below:
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Midlife Crisis Sign #1
First things first, what’s in your mind? Are any of the following thoughts (or something close to) swirling around in your mind, or have you actually said them to your spouse?
- I’m not in love with you anymore
- I still love you (like a friend), but I’m not in love with you
- I never knew anything besides life with you
- We got married too young
- If you hadn’t been pregnant, we wouldn’t have ever gotten married
Midlife Crisis Sign #2
Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way, let’s go on to the next point. Think about your whole relationship from beginning to this (impending) end: it’s been nothing but frustration hasn’t it? You can’t seem to have any fond memories of your spouse at this time. Even when they did something good, it was just to manipulate you or make you feel bad.
When you think back, all the problems that you’re having now and ever had in your marriage has been because of your spouse. They always made you do what they wanted; you never got to do what you wanted.
Midlife Crisis Sign #3
You’re ready for the next one. Be honest now. Do you really care about how they’re feeling right now or what they want? You just want to separate yourself from all of this “madness”. The crying, the nagging, and the constant questions from your spouse is getting you down. So you feel you need to withdraw emotionally, don’t you?
Midlife Crisis Sign #4
You think that there are some things you always wanted but never got round to getting. You’re not going to wait any more until you can afford something before you go out and get it. You deserve to get some nice things and you’re to get them. NOW.
Midlife Crisis Sign #5
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You begin to wonder what life would have been like with another person. You reckon that if you had been available, all those other men or women would have wanted you. So you’re beginning to think about testing out your theory. And you know what, you guessed right. There are loads of people out there who want you. They laugh at your jokes and think you’re interesting. They actually think that you’re pretty great.
Midlife Crisis Sign #6