Cosmo's guy guru answers your most pressing sex and love questions.
Q: When my guy and I were together, our sex life was bland and boring. Since we broke up three months ago, we're on a booty-call basis, no strings attached, and the sex is now hotter than ever. Why has it suddenly gotten so amazing?
A: Ah, welcome to the wonderful world of ex sex. It's hot, it's naughty...oh yeah, and it's a really stupid idea. But more on that later. Why are your bedroom romps so much better now that you're no longer together? Because it feels like something you probably shouldn't be doing. You know it's unhealthy, and that's precisely what makes it so damn good. Another reason: Everyday relationship sex — the kind you had before the split — can become routine and a bit tame, especially when you've been dating awhile. You're more protective of your relationship and less likely to bust out the leather whips or "call me a slut" talk. With ex sex, however, nothing is sacred, and anything goes. Also, a lot of it has to do with ego. Right now, you both have something to prove — specifically that your partner made a mistake leaving because you're so skilled in the sack! Pride is a powerful aphrodisiac. Sure, the sex is great now. But the fact that you broke up means there was something wrong with your relationship. If you got back together, the problems would return — including the lame sex. And keeping things on a booty-call basis isn't better because one of you is bound to get more attached. It's hard to give up amazing sex, but you should...or at least proceed with caution.
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