That is, until my second Valentines Day with my now-husband (he'd blown the first by getting me a teddy bear wearing a roll-neck sweater holding chocolates—and not as a joke). It's amazing we lasted to V-Day number two, but we did, and he handed me a carefully wrapped book. When I opened it, I saw that it was I Can't Fight This Feeling, a catalog of 80s love songs with over-the-top lyrics—think Bryan Adams and hair band ballads. As I flipped through the book, I started to laugh. Suddenly, the cheese factor of Cupid's day felt like an asset, something to be celebrated and enjoyed.
You won't hear me say that Valentines Day isn't a Hallmark Holiday; it is. But that doesn't mean you can't have fun with it, whether you're single or not. In my quest for genius ways for naysayers to reclaim Valentines Day – like I did – I turned to a few likeminded women and asked them for their best tricks. Here's how they have found joy in a holiday many people turn up their noses at. How will you reclaim V-Day?
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Change the theme.
"I host a President’s Day party instead of a Valentines bash. All of my single friend come dressed up as their favorite president, VP or first lady. It's hilarious!" –Carrie Seim
Keep it simple.
"My now-husband and I went to the Oregon coast on our first Valentines Day and we found a simple white shell on the beach. Now, each year we take turns giving it to each other. This year he has it so I expect to see it on the 14th! It doesn’t cost money, but it means more than anything we could buy." –Anya Janowsky
Cheese it up.
"Valentines Day dinner at restaurants are always a prix-fixe rip-off, but I never feel like cooking. So my husband and I order a heart-shaped pizza. Oh yeah." –Claire Zulkey
Make your own tradition.
"When we were single, friends and I would go for Chinese food and then to a movie on Valentines Day—we didn't let our relationship status keep us from celebrating!" –Stacey Feintuch
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At the core of Valentines Day is the value of love—and that includes self-love. So go ahead and get in on the action. That doesn't necessarily mean buying copies of all the 50 Shades of Grey books (but it could if that works for you!). Self-love can be picking up the cashmere sweater you've had your eye on, ordering in a favorite meal, making a date with yoga class or taking the time to declutter your desk. Aaaah. Maybe even put a Pink carnation in a bud vase, for old time's sake. Who says only the popular kids get flowers?