Bad dates are inevitable. Many magazines even feature an entire page devoted to embarrassing and awful date stories submitted by avid readers. Prepare yourself, because everyone will experience an awkward, boring or just plain awful date at least once in their lives. The talkative; the obnoxious; the rude; the stand up–we’ve all been there. With the New Year here and Valentine’s Day approaching, you may find yourself scrambling to find dates. Don’t just settle because you may end up discouraged. Here are some excellent tips from the experts on how to avoid a bad date before it happens:
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1. Get to know each other first. With today’s technology, there is no reason to not get to know the person you are planning on spending a potentially romantic evening with. If you met on an online dating site, this may have already happened. Online relationships have become extremely successful because you must read a person’s profile before meeting them. Dateologist Tracey Steinberg says, ”Always speak on the phone for at least 10 minutes to see if you have anything to talk about and if he can hold up his end of the conversation. It requires a lot less energy to end a bad phone call than a bad date.” Similarly, dating relationship advisor and comedian John Powers recommends “When you’re exchanging emails, texts, or phone calls you should listen carefully for awkwardness, hesitation or anything unusual. If this person is social and friendly then they should come across as natural and relaxed through any type of communication exchange. Pay attention to how they express themselves. If you sense anything out of the ordinary you should cancel
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2. Make a mutual decision on the venue. If you don’t like sports at all, don’t agree to go to a sporting event. If you hate jazz music, don’t offer to take your date to a jazz club. Powers says, “Being in an uncomfortable situation always makes for a bad date. Arrange to meet in a public place where you feel safe and secure. Go someplace you have been before and allow the date to be whatever it will be.”