Why Some Women Want a Man Behind Bars


Why Some Women Want a Man Behind Bars
Why some women forgo relationships with free men, and go after the fellas on the inside.

He can still be a dog from inside of a jail cell.

3) "I've Got Hand"

For the power bottoms out there, dating a dude who's locked up is the ultimate satisfaction. He's so big and strong and dangerous and sexy. But the woman has all the control. When a woman gets involved with a man who is behind bars, she has the upper-hand in the relationship 100% of the time. Think about it, he's stuck in a cell all day pining away for you, hoping you don't meet a better man out there, while you're living your life. Of course he's going to be constantly worried about losing his girl. This throws the power dynamics way off and before she knows it, her hardened prisoner transforms into a lovesick puppy dog, especially if the inmate doesn’t have family on the outside. A dependence forms, and for some women, having this kind of ultimate domination over their relationship is extremely desirable.


In other words, prison romances are perfect for us codependent gals who constantly need to hear that the man in our lives "needs us." While most people think neediness is a turn off, some people find it sexy.

Too Dangerous

Aside from the obvious intimacy hurdles in a relationship like this, there are significant risks associated with pursuing romance with a prisoner.
The inmate can easily become obsessed. They may start demanding more and more of their partners and grow increasingly jealous, or suspicious of their girlfriend's outside activities. Women who write to men in prison must understand that many of these inmates have been locked up for years, possibly even decades and may not have had contact with a woman for a long time. This, in combination with the fact that a prisoner doesn’t have much to do all day but sit around and think about their “girlfriend” on the outside, can often be the perfect recipe for obsession, which can lead to desperate, dangerous actions if the inmate’s attachment becomes too strong. Additionally, the inmate has the woman's address, which could lead to dangerous repercussions if things go sour.

Remember ladies, there are other places to meet muscular, tatted up bad boys aside from your local penitentiary.

If the whole prison thing kinda leaves you freaked out, as opposed to turned on, consider performing a criminal records search http://www.instantcheckmate.com/criminal-records/ on the dude you’re dating. It's an easy way to find out if someone has a criminal history, without having to awkwardly ask them on the first date.

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