Do you want to be the master of your happiness? Then know how to recognize bad signs.
We've all had one or more boyfriends/girlfriends that didn't work out. We tell ourselves and everyone else that the split came out of nowhere and can't understand how things went wrong. The reality; we chose to ignore the signs when they were slapping us in the face. These common place roadblocks are as follows:
10.) They promise you the world and yet, they don't deliver
Have you ever met and fallen for someone seemingly too good to be true? We convince ourselves that we lucked out to have captured the heart of someone who is everything and more of what we have patiently been waiting on. Sure, we may question their devotion and promises at first, but our desire for the fairy tale fantasy usually outweighs our grip on reality when it comes to the love department. Relationships of this nature begin hot and heavy with romance and adventure. ' You want a house on a lake, two kids, a dog, and annual vacations to exotic islands too?! I know we've only been dating for a couple months now, but I want you to meet my family because they're going to love you!' When a new interest starts laying their dreaminess on thick, chances are they've done so many times with before,and with many others before you. Real love is something that goes through a longer natural process. It can't be forced to move ahead, and it can't be their right from the start (that's lust). So if you find yourself pursued by someone who moves through the dating steps at the speed of lightning, I can guarantee it will crash and burn just as fast.
9.) Mutual friends act indifferent towards you
Most everyone begins solidifying friendships during their school years. When two people form a relationship, introductions are made between these collectives, and mutual friends are born. While a wonderful benefit to a couple as this may be for future get togethers, the fallback if things don't work out can be uncomfortable. Whether it's a divorce or dating dead end, usually these joint friendships pick their favorite of the two and take a side even when they say they'd like to remain on good terms with both parties. Trust me, I've been there, and that's almost always the case. When you go to a gathering and friends start inquiring about how you're doing in a concerned manner, or they seem to be disengaged from you completely, be cautious that something may already be brewing. When one half of a couple is looking to get out, they start talking and word gets out fast.
8.) One or both of you have Addiction, Controlling, or Anger issues
The purpose of a romantic relationship is after finding happiness with yourself, you can now share that happiness and enjoy it with someone who is just as content and secure as you are. It's not our job or obligation to be someone elses savior/hero/fixer when they happen to have major issues. I dated men who did drugs to have a tolerable personality, physically took out frustrations on me or my belongings, and who felt that knowing where I was and who I was talking to at all times did so as proof of how much they 'loved' me. These types of behaviors and proclamations couldn't be any further from the truth. If you're involved with someone who claims to need certain outrageous substances to be okay, take heed. If they get riled up over trivial issues or don't see the reasoning why you should ever have time away once in a while with friends or family, run, and run fast.
7.) Bad Sex, No PDA or lack thereof
I'm a big believer that the physical connection between a couple is the main barometer for the rest of the relationship. While the flame may dwindle a bit over time, those who are rightly matched will always find a way to keep the fire burning. When other activities start taking priority more and more over tangling in the sheets, that is never a positive sign. If anyone cuts back or refuses pda, even if it's as simple as holding hands or a spontaneous kiss, there's an underlying reason why they've puled back. The number one cause is usually symptom to them now sharing those affections with someone else. They'll start with professing to 'not being in the mood' and eventuallyyou're finding yourselves sleeping with your backs towards each other regularly (if you're still sleeping in the same bed at all). Couples who genuinely love and care for their partners make the time and effort to express themselves verbally AND physically in and out of the bedroom. Love just cannot be hidden!
6.) The Monetary Scrooge Syndrome
Ever dated someone who works here and there or purposely remains unemployed? Maybe you're seeing someone who very well has a job but for some reason rarely or never pays for anything? This is because you've caught yourself a selfish moocher. As someone who has lived through most of their relationships with boys such as these (because Men refuse to be financially dependent on a woman and prefer to being the provider), I can tell you that it is a learned behavior that can take years to snap out of. Couples share financial responsibilities, joint expenses and luxuries. If you find yourself on the receiving end of spending more than your fair share, start questioning why that is. Why are you putting more in then they are? This tell tale sign shows lack of investment into the relationship, period. If there is no balanced give and take, then there is no relationship.
5.) Little Things are no longer a priority
Flowers or surprising your significant other with lunch in the middle of a work week can be so appreciated. When our loved one spontaneously goes out of their way to pick something up at the store and bring it home for us because they just had to is one of the greatest feelings in the world. It shows that our interests are