The New Year is always that time to let go of the old and stagnate parts of your life to make room for the new and exciting ones. With all the spine-tingling sensations coming your way, now is a good time for you to start a new relationship. This does not mean that you dump your current relationship to find a new one. Rather, view this as making a new start with your current partner. To create a memorable 2013, filled with an invigorating romance to last well beyond the year, here are five steps to lead you to a “new” relationship:
1. Your mindset: The number one step to starting a new relationship with your current love is to mentally vow to have a new relationship with your current love. Sound too simple? It actually is that easy. You don’t need to know all the answers on January 1. Instead know this. Your relationship is on a new journey, with you and your partner as co-pilots. Once your new relationship takes off, there is no going back! Feel yourselves veering off course? That doesn’t matter; just nudge your relationship slowly back on track. And remember, as long as you and your mate are still heading towards the direction of love, you are always making progress to your final destination.
2. A new language: With a new relationship comes new vocabulary or rather a new way to speak to each other. Think of this as your relationship’s very own language of love, fluently spoken by only you and your partner. Instead of saying “I” or “you,” use the word “we.” Instead of saying “problem,” use the word “challenge.” Instead of saying “but,” use the word “and.” Instead of saying “can’t,” use the word “can.” Finally, instead of saying “why,” use the word “how.” An example of the old language is, “You have a problem but I can’t fix it. Why can’t you fix it?” Your new language is, “We have a challenge and we can fix it. How can we fix it?” The difference is to focus on a solution and not the problem. With a little practice, it will come natural.