I'm the typical emotional Libra; my world revolves around relationships, marriage ,and family....it's been this way for as long as I can remember. However, I've managed to bring my dreams to a more realistic level over the years and have lessened the pressure on myself and the one that I'm with. It's still there of course, I can't make my hopes and dreams evaporate into thin air. I know what I want for myself and for my daughter, but I won't demand it of anyone or beat myself down greatly when it doesn't happen. I am incredibly fortunate to be with the man I have today. While we were not together for our birthdays, we appropriately figured our schedules around the rest of the year and made it through the end intact. As I've gotten older, it's become more and more apparent that sometimes, things just can't happen when you'd like or want them to. When you understand and accept that fact, the disappointments are fewer and fewer. If you never wish to have to work through any hard times a single day in your life, then my recommendation is to stay away from romance completely. There will always be an obstacle, a fight, some bump in the road that will make you want to walk away from your relationship at one time or another. Unless that reason is an absolute dealbreaker, what excuse do you have to not try and work it out for the best?
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It saddens me to hear about or see others in the same position I had been used to living in for over a decade. People become quitters far too fast these days. So is the miniscule fight you had with your girlfriend really worth the cheating? Is having the pressure of moving to the next level in your relationship cause for dropping them out of the blue? The amusing thing is, as long as you involve yourself with another, holidays are inevitable and there's no escaping their arrival. Just because it's Christmas, doesn't mean you have to put a ring on their finger, but more than likely, someone has progression in the back of their mind, even if it is only to talk and see where you stand. A new year will mean either moving further ahead, or starting anew with a clean slate. Just because I am involved today, I don't take for granted that it's guaranteed tomorrow. I can't control what my other half feels, does, or wants. He is his own developing person, and all I can do is continue being there for him how I have been all these months. For now, I can see that I am still very much loved and wanted by his appreciation for my affections towards him. A holiday may come and go, but solid respect and honesty is what stands the test of time. So whether you find yourself in shoes similar or starting over yet again, don't lose faith that your time is coming. We will all get what we rightfully deserve down the road...and the same goes for the ones that bail when the going gets tough.