The year is coming to a close and you still haven’t found that special someone. So if you’re truly ready for love, why not make it your 2013 resolution? While love does seem to happen when you’re not exactly looking for it, there are things that you can do to work toward that goal. Cupid spoke to a few relationship experts and came up with five resolutions to help you get closer to finding “The One.” Keep reading to find out what they are:
1. Show yourself some love. “Start dating yourself and do for yourself what you want someone to do with you – stop waiting around and treat yourself well. Once you get an appetite for that, not only will you be better able to find someone because your best self will be out there, you also won’t stick around for what doesn’t feel right,” said clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula, M.D.
It might sound cliché, but it wouldn’t be said if it wasn’t true – you need to love yourself before you can have a healthy relationship with someone else. So go ahead, take yourself on a trip to somewhere you’ve always wanted to go or simply order in dinner and have a glass of wine or two. As long as it’s all about you.
2. Get out of your comfort zone. “Commit to putting yourself out there at every opportunity. It doesn’t matter where you go or what you do, as long as you can meet other people there. Even going to a movie with a friend can lead to something more – you can start a conversation with a cute guy in line. You simply never know,” advised author and marriage/family therapist, Jane Greer, Ph.D.
Go even further and make a resolution to do one thing a day outside of your comfort level – a concept that is explained in Durvasula’s “You Are WHY You Eat,” a book on making better choices in health, love and life. “Go out for coffee alone, join that online site, tell your friends that you are ready to meet people – one thing a day. Then once a week, do something unique – visit the planetarium, take a cooking class or join the yoga class in the park. Try and make it something where there will be other people. I acknowledge that it can be the loneliest in a crowd, but they are not going to come to your front door,” added Durvasula.