So what's a couple to do until they can find oxytocin nasal spray at their local CVS? Well, women produce oxytocin while they're lactating, so there's that. Another way to go? Some relationship therapists recommend a cuddling time-out, which is probably the last thing you'll want to do in the middle of the argument, but could be the best thing for your relationship. In his book, Communication Miracles for Couples, Jonathan Robinson calls it the "spoon tune." Bring it up to your partner while things are conflict-free, and agree to try it next time you're arguing. It sounds cheesy to call a spoon tune time-out, especially mid-fight, but you may just find that a lot of arguments feel less important after a few minutes of being the little spoon.
Robinson even suggests that you spoon standing up if you're in a place where you can't lie down, but if you'd rather not spoon your significant other during dinner with your boss, agree to shelve the issue until you're home and alone. You can even sleep on it. Cuddle up at night after an argument and see if things look a little better in the morning—just keep in mind, this will require you to stifle the urge to angrily hog the covers all night. And of course, since oxytocin is released during orgasm, there's always makeup sex (though you might as well take more than five minutes on that, while you're at it). Thanks, science!
By Diana Vilibert, Care2 Healthy Living
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