I spent the day licking my emotional wounds as I finished the clean up. I knew that I needed a better plan for empty house syndrome. I vowed that I would do things differently the next time this scenario occurred. I came up with a plan. I would have a special day planned for the first empty house day after a family gathering…especially when all the kids left at the same time. I would treat that day as my own personal holiday where I rest, reflect, relish the memories and rejuvenate. As a side note, I have found that it is a much easier adjustment if the kids leave at different times. So for the last 3 years I have enjoyed amazing After Thanksgiving Empty House holidays. As Thanksgiving is the beginning of the holiday season, last year I purchased tickets to Fioli’s Christmas Open House and Boutique for the following Monday. I went with a friend to see the beautiful Fioli mansion decorated to the hilt and purchased some new Christmas decorations. After a leisurely lunch, we headed back home. I entered a clean, quiet home, brewed a cup of fresh tea, put on some Christmas music, started a fire and put my feet up. I felt content, whole and at peace. While I had enjoyed the most recent invasion of the kids for Thanksgiving vacation, I was glad to have my house back. I was getting used to and enjoying the empty nest syndrome. I realized that I loved both aspects of my life. I loved the wild family times but I also appreciated my personal time and fulfilling my personal desires and dreams. Empty nest is a wonderful time to get back to your life after so much dedication to your kids and their busy lives. It isn’t the day to day empty nest that I find difficult. It is the first empty house day after a big family event that hits me in the gut. How about you? How do you feel when the kids leave after a family event. Do you have a plan for your Personal After Thanksgiving Empty House holiday? Please leave me a comment at www.yourcollegegameplan.com and let me know how you deal with empty nest.
"Over drinks at a bar my date revealed many interesting details about himself. He used to live on 'the streets.' He claimed to have 'beat Spina Bifida.' He had had a fiancé in Japan who was open to him dating women while he was in the States. After all those amazing revelations I let him know our relationship would not be romantic. As we walked out of the bar he appeared to be suffering from some sort of stomach cramp. He told me he suffered from severe IBS and desperately needed a private bathroom. I have family members who suffer from Crohn's disease so I felt very sympathetic to his situation. I offered to let him use the bathroom in my apartment. After he had finished using the bathroom, he says, 'I know you said we could just be friends and that's fine. But, I was wondering if I could just watch you pee before I leave. I only want to watch.' P.S. — I did not let him watch me pee." -Miranda, 33