Kathryn also teaches the concept that your soulmate cannot see past you and only has eyes for you. This describes Alex to a tee in his utter adoration of his Aggie. Once upon a time I would think a man like Alex was a rare breed. Just like I thought Hugh Jackman was cut from a different cloth than most men for his dedication to his wife. The character Hugh Jackman played in "The Fountain" seems to be similar to his real life adoration toward his spouse and family. It used to seem like a rare circumstance. Now, it's an everyday occurrence to see these kind of relationships because I'm surrounded by men in their 20's and 30's who treat their women like a Goddess they worship. However, I want to make a distinction that adoration of a significant other is NOT codependency or worse, addiction to a person. Simply speaking these men treat their ladies like the prize of their lives.
I have seen one man go all all out to create an elaborate and heart warming birthday surprise for his girlfriend right before telling her he had planned a surprise trip for them to Hawaii. He even secretly arranged with his girlfriend's co-worker to videotape the surprise so he could post have it as a momento. Then there is the man who patiently went against his nature to win over his girlfriend when three other men were also seriously pursuing her. His usual modus operendi was to come on strong and "brand" the woman before she made her choice. Intuition told him to give her the freedom to choose, make the most of each date, and trust. She ended up picking him because she felt no pressure when they were out compared to the other guys.
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There are endless stories that I seem to witness every day that I can't not believe that love will find you in some cosmic way. I am not New Agey but I do think differently now that a collection of positive mental equivalents in relationships have occurred around me. How could I have held on to the opposite set of beliefs when too many real-life examples of commitment and respect in couplehood have entered my life in the last six months? The ambivalence that once dominated my thoughts for years has been released and replaced as Kathryn would say.
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What has set these people apart, especially Alex and Aggie, is that they go all out without expectation in little and big ways every day, for one purpose: to make the other person happy. Simple as that. I really did think that Alex was part of an "outlier" category of men because he didn't give to Aggie to get. His gestures were free from agenda and he wasn't keeping score or expecting Aggie to respond a certain way by a particular time. Then when I noticed all the other men at work were the same it no longer seemed to be so hard to associate partnership and commitment with the male gender of a certain age group.