How Caught On


How Caught On
Solo seemed supreme until a surprise book find led to Alex and Aggie's soulmate inspiration

Part of the reason why felt worthy of being documented in a series for me was the effect it had on my life. When I pondered the impact of how Alex and Aggie helped create a positive mental equivalent for me regarding coupledom, it felt that a duplicate impact could be had by others who would read the series. At first it began as a series of academic essays for a class on Imago Relationship Theory but quickly evolved into something much different. Since the biggest change in my belief system since finding Kathryn's book and Alex and Aggie is how 'entrained' my cognitive association of commitment and under age 40 is. After a decade of the reality show The Bachelor dominating pop culture combined with movies of similar plot lines, it's easy to conclude that men are commitment phobic creatures whose consciousness is chronically stuck at the frat house. Images that reinforce that belief are soaked in the media making it seem like a cold hard fact. Fact is, it's not, but if you focus on it then there is a good chance that you will train your subconscious to only notice people, places, and things that are consistent with that belief. Thus, you are reinforcing your belief even though contrary evidence is equally available or quite frankly, in abundance.

So who were the other examples that followed after Alex and Aggie? There is the engaged couple who had been childhood sweethearts that broke up in a rather dramatic way. Basically the guy told the girl to leave him alone and never talk to him again because he wanted to live a life without her. Famous last words it seemed because four years later the same guy came to the conclusion that she was the best thing that ever happened to him. In the words of the song "Working My Way Back to You Babe" that is exactly what he did. Now he tells me that they have several volumes of CDs to store their own personal playlist of songs that they have dedicated to one another. Here is where another one of Kathryn's concepts are proven true. Not only does your soulmate not scare easy but a real soulmate always come back. They will come back without any coercion and by surprise.

Next example is a married couple who met at a nightclub in Buenos Aires. The husband is very dedicated to his wife and children and its a partnership built on cooperation, commitment, and daily acts of kindness. Funny but true: when he first saw his wife at the bar on that fateful night in Argentina he knew instantly he was going to marry her. She was there with her girlfriends. He was there with his girlfriend. Six weeks later they were married albeit one very confused ex-girlfriend was a casualty of Cupid's Arrow that evening.

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