The reason why many beautiful talent women keep picking the wrong men and science of how to stop it.
The November 12, 2012 Star magazine cover stated The End for Britney and Jason. Britney Spears is no stranger to heartbreak. It wasn’t that long ago that magazines and the Internet splashed images of a wild-eyed bald Brittney beating a car with her umbrella. This shocking incident was the culmination of a break-up and custody battle with her ex husband Kevin Federline.
Now, the Star reported that after years of losers and users, Britney’s family breathed a sigh of relief. “Finally, she’d have someone who would love and take care of her – a welcome change.”
Unfortunately as Britney’s pattern, the relationship soured rather quickly. This one ended before she could say, “I do.” Although not married, Brittney and Jason still have a messy entanglement to deal with. Jason was not only her finance, he was also her manager and still under legal obligation to her.
Britney is not the only “broken GPS (Guy Picking System) girl to made headlines lately. In an October 18, 2012 article in the New York Times, Halle Barry, admits she has a “broken picker.” She explains, “God just wanted to mix up my life. Maybe he was thinking, ‘This girl can’t get everything! I’m going to give her a broken picker. ” Barry was making light of her malady, but the reality is broken pickers are a very painful and far to common.
Many beautiful talent women have them such as Sandra Bullock, Rihanna, and even Marilyn Monroe. As Berry so eloquently explains it, a broken picker is linked to a woman’s self-esteem and “a person’s self-esteem has nothing to do with how she looks.” She adds, “I’m proof of that. Self-esteem comes from who you have in your life. How you were raised. What you struggled with as a child.”
Your personal struggles as a child are what can make fixing a broken picker so hard. Each person’s struggle is different, so a one size fits all approach doesn’t work. In addition, many of us, don’t want to open old wounds, we would prefer to forget about them and move on. While others might not even remember their past wounds. Unfortunately, this unresolved pain could trip us up later in life.
In fact, researchers believe that out relationship patterns can begin to be set as young as 18 months old. “Your interpersonal experiences with your mother during the first 12 to 18 months of life predict your behavior in romantic relationships 20 years later," says psychologist Jeffry A. Simpson, the author, with University of Minnesota colleagues W. Andrew Collins and Jessica E. Salvatore. "Before you can remember, before you have language to describe it, and in ways you aren't aware of, implicit attitudes get encoded into the mind," about how you'll be treated or how worthy you are of love and affection” (ScienceDaily Dec 14, 2011).
The good news is that a broken picker is fixable. Berry stated she had to take a look at her past and her old patterns in order to heal them. As Simpson says, "If you can figure out what those old models are and verbalize them," and if you get involved with a committed, trustworthy partner, says Simpson, "you may be able to revise your models and calibrate your behavior differently." Old patterns can be overcome. A betrayed baby can become loyal. An unloved infant can learn to love.