Check in with yourself post-divorce and evaluate if your needs have changed. You might be looking for someone different because you yourself have also changed. Remember, more than 60 percent of second marriages fail, and more than 70 percent of third marriages fail. That’s typically because men and women marry the same person with a different face again and again. Make sure you reflect on your dating patterns and do the internal work necessary to change those patterns. Fixing your broken picker now, before you head back into the pumpkin patch to look for your horse and carriage and the Prince Charming who comes with it, can help you prevent making the same mistakes.
3. You are in control of your life. Kim has a string of rocky relationships and two failed marriages behind her, but she hasn’t let that affect her faith in love, marriage or happiness. One of the main reasons people wait to start dating after a divorce is caution about the prying eyes of family and friends, along with worries about what others will think about your new dating life. Kim seems to have skipped over that part rather breezily, and she has many more people to contend with than you probably do.
She has stated she ignores negative comments and no longer follows gossip blogs. If you’re worried about what people around you will think when you begin dating again, avoid bringing up your dating escapades right away. But if it’s making you feel good, just remember that you are in charge of your own happiness. When it comes down to it, it’s you, yourself, and you - not anyone else.
Marni Battista, founder of Dating with Dignity, is an expert dating and life coach with a 10-step system to manifesting love for your self and others. You can contact Marni at firstname.lastname@example.org.