Now forget ALL thoughts of rubbing, kneading or pounding your lover or the recipient all over until she begs for mercy. It’s not that kind of massage. Gentle and loving is what this is all about.
Have the recipient lie on her back, legs apart and a cushion under the hips to rise up the Yoni area and a cushion or cushions under the head and upper body so she can look at her genitals and what you are doing there.
Explain that although there will not be any penetrative sex during this event, she may very well experience some degree of pleasure and may ascend to previously unknown heights of sexual satisfaction. (Printing this article and placing it next to the bed or massage table is NOT a good start to setting this mood or expectation. Do some homework first if this is your first venture into Tantric massage.)
Choose your lubricant wisely – flavoured body sauces are NOT what this is all about and have no place here. The massage itself involves every part of the body, although I guess the Yoni area will receive a substantial part of the attention. The massaging of the rest of the body is to help prepare the receiver for the attention you will be paying her genitals.
We will assume that you HAVE completed the full body massage suggested above, and hopefully also the Pelvic Floor Sculpting outlined in my previous article.
Pour a small amount of oil onto your hand and allow it to warm up before pouring it on to the mound of the Yoni. You may need to do this several times until there is enough oil there that it starts to drip down over and between the outer lips.
Begin by massaging the Mons Veneris, (the pubic mound, that mound of soft tissue immediately above the Yoni) the areas surrounding the Mons and the tops of the thighs. If the Mons is shaven, it will need less lubricant to be comfortable than if there is a ‘full head of hair’. It is a good idea to use a variety of strokes for this area. Fingertips, the palm of the hand, the heel of the hand and both hands stroking downward toward the Yoni can all be very pleasureable. Making the majority of these strokes in a downward direction toward the Yoni will also help to stimulate blood flow toward that area, which will help to increase pleasure.
Once the subject is warmed up somewhat to intimate touch and appears to be relaxed and enjoying the massage, attention can be shifted to the Yoni itself. Massage each outer lip slowly between thumb and forefinger, sliding up and down the entire length of the lip. Some people like to use a thumb and forefinger on each lip at the same time. Personally, I prefer to prolong the experience – and the pleasure – by working with both thumbs and forefingers on one side at a time.
Ask your ‘victim’ – er, recipient – if the pressure is too much or not enough. Try to look into her eyes during the massage and ensure she can see what you are doing. This aspect of the massage can be very important as it helps to familiarise the recipient with her own body parts and the pleasure that can be had from contact with those parts. You never know, she may even decide to do it for herself sometime – IF you aren’t available.
Gently squeeze the outer labia (lip) between thumb and index finger and slide up and down the entire length of each lip.