A simple yet comprehensive guide for performing a Tantric massage on the female Vulva or Yoni.
Tantric Massage Instructions for Yoni/Vulva Massage.
Many of you will have heard of Tantric sex and massage. Tantric sex and the associated massage practices were created from the belief that if you are sexually happy and relaxed then your health will benefit. People who are sexually satisfied usually have pretty good self- esteem too.
This massage does tend to cause orgasms. This is NOT necessarily the main aim or goal of a Tantric massage but it is a not uncommon occurrence. These orgasms are usually seen as a bonus rather than the aim. However, when working with a woman who is either non-orgasmic or has difficulty achieving orgasms, it is often the aim to achieve orgasm. Having said this, it should never be the ONLY criteria for success in such cases. The MAIN criteria for success in such cases should be that the recipient becomes more relaxed and experiences SOME degree of pleasure. This is a foundation that can be built on in successive massages.
Although Tantric massage does not involve actual penetrative sex with the penis, or Lingam, it does involve touching of the sexual organs. It could safely be described as a ‘contact sport’ in this regard. In the case of a female recipient, this may commonly involve vaginal penetration with a finger or fingers for the purpose of massaging the vagina and/or stimulating the G-spot to give pleasure or achieve orgasm. This article will not cover the aspects of vaginal penetration and massage. (I have to leave something to write about next time.)
Due to legal and societal constraints, there are not many health practitioners offering this form of treatment. For this reason you are unlikely to find it offered at your local health centre. You are far more likely to find it on offer in massage parlours in major cities or with the rare alternative health practitioner who does offer these services.
If you want to try this form of massage with your partner, here is a basic guide to Tantric massage as it applies to a female recipient.
Because this exercise is about Tantric massage, from this point on the penis will be referred to as a ‘Lingam’ (wand of light ) and the female genitals will be called ‘Yoni’ (sacred space or sacred temple). Some people feel that those words sound much nicer than the alternatives but that is mostly a matter of perception.
If you, the female recipient, are visiting somewhere for your massage, you need to decide either beforehand or in discussion with the practitioner whether you will be getting naked or not. Some Tantric/genital massage can be done on both males and females with underwear still in place but it is not nearly as easy to access the areas concerned. If you wish to maintain some level of modesty or security, by all means keep your underwear on. After all, the MAIN object of the exercise is to have the recipient relaxed and comfortable so that they can surrender to the pleasure that may be derived from whatever level of access they are comfortable with permitting.
On the other hand, IF you want the utmost from the experience, it definitely pays to surrender modesty and get fully naked to allow the operator full access to ALL of your body. Even when totally naked, you still retain the right to declare a halt or a ‘no-go’ zone.
When setting the scene, choose some soft music (whale music is optional) and a warm but not HOT environment. Now forget ALL thoughts of rubbing, kneading or pounding your lover or the recipient all over until she begs for mercy. It’s not that kind of massage. Gentle and loving is what this is all about.
Have the recipient lie on her back, legs apart and a cushion under the hips to rise up the Yoni area and a cushion or cushions under the head and upper body so she can look at her genitals and what you are doing there.
Explain that although there will not be any penetrative sex during this event, she may very well experience some degree of pleasure and may ascend to previously unknown heights of sexual satisfaction. (Printing this article and placing it next to the bed or massage table is NOT a good start to setting this mood or expectation. Do some homework first if this is your first venture into Tantric massage.)
Choose your lubricant wisely – flavoured body sauces are NOT what this is all about and have no place here. The massage itself involves every part of the body, although I guess the Yoni area will receive a substantial part of the attention. The massaging of the rest of the body is to help prepare the receiver for the attention you will be paying her genitals.
We will assume that you HAVE completed the full body massage suggested above, and hopefully also the Pelvic Floor Sculpting outlined in my previous article.
Pour a small amount of oil onto your hand and allow it to warm up before pouring it on to the mound of the Yoni. You may need to do this several times until there is enough oil there that it starts to drip down over and between the outer lips.
Begin by massaging the Mons Veneris, (the pubic mound, that mound of soft tissue immediately above the Yoni) the areas surrounding the Mons and the tops of the thighs. If the Mons is shaven, it will need less lubricant to be comfortable than if there is a ‘full head of hair’. It is a good idea to use a variety of strokes for this area. Fingertips, the palm of the hand, the heel of the hand and both hands stroking downward toward the Yoni can all be very pleasureable. Making the majority of these strokes in a downward direction toward the Yoni will also help to stimulate blood flow toward that area, which will help to increase pleasure.
Once the subject is warmed up somewhat to intimate touch and appears to be relaxed and enjoying the massage, attention can be shifted to the Yoni itself. Massage each outer lip slowly between thumb and forefinger, sliding up and down the entire length of the lip. Some people like to use a thumb and forefinger on each lip at the same time. Personally, I prefer to prolong the experience – and the pleasure – by working with both thumbs and forefingers on one side at a time.
Ask your ‘victim’ – er, recipient – if the pressure is too much or not enough. Try to look into her eyes during the massage and ensure she can see what you are doing. This aspect of the massage can be very important as it helps to familiarise the recipient with her own body parts and the pleasure that can be had from contact with those parts. You never know, she may even decide to do it for herself sometime – IF you aren’t available.
Gently squeeze the outer labia (lip) between thumb and index finger and slide up and down the entire length of each lip. It is also advisable to devote some time and effort to the areas between the outer labia and the tops of the thighs as the outer wings and legs of the clitoris lie under these areas and stimulation here encourages engorgement of these parts with blood which contributes to arousal and orgasm.
Now direct your attention to the inner lips of the Yoni. Take your time and watch your recipient relax. If all is going well and the recipient is relaxing and ‘warming’ to the experience, you may notice that her Yoni is becoming more slippery to the touch. This will be because she is becoming sexually aroused and producing her own female lubricant. This female sexual lubricant is much finer and more slippery than any massage oil that I have ever used.
Massage the inner labia of her yoni in a similar way to the outer labia. Ask if the pressure, speed and depth of the strokes are adequate, or if they need to be increased/decreased. While massaging these areas, be sure to continue the strokes right to the top of the yoni and over the clitoral hood to begin preparing the clitoris for more direct contact.
Gently stroke the clitoris with clockwise and counterclockwise circles. Gently squeeze the clitoris between thumb and index finger. Both of these movements can be done through the clitoral hood before making direct contact with the clitoris as the clitoris may be rather sensitive to direct touch unless the recipient is well aroused. She may become very aroused at this point so encourage her to relax and breathe.
The ‘jewel’ in the Yoni is the clitoris. This little ‘jigger’ is several times more sensitive than the male Lingam, so be a little considerate of that sensitivity. Sometimes, the clitoris can be so sensitive that it is uncomfortable, even painful to touch directly. This can vary from woman to woman and for any individual woman from encounter to encounter. Be aware of the possibility of this extreme sensitivity. This extreme sensitivity is not unlike the extreme sensitivity of the head of the Lingam just after orgasm and ejaculation.
The good thing about this extreme sensitivity is that it often becomes less of a problem as the woman’s level of arousal increases. If it is a problem at the beginning of the massage, rub the clitoris through the clitoral hood, keeping the outer labia together until the subject is more able to cope with the sensitivity.
If/when the recipient is able to accept direct clitoral contact, begin by gently stroking it in both clockwise and anti-clockwise directions and squeeze it gently between your thumb and index finger. You can also GENTLY pull on it (IF you can get grip on it with all that female lubricant over it.), in a similar fashion to pulling on a woman’s nipples but with much more awareness of her responses. You can also rub a thumb or two fingers held together in an ‘up-and-down’ direction over the clitoris. Some women also enjoy having the heel of the hand placed over the clitoris, some little pressure applied and the hand moved in small movements in circles, figure 8’s or just randomly.
The recipient may be well and truly aroused by now but try not to allow an orgasm just yet. Let the sensations build. The more the sensations build before release, the bigger, brighter and better the orgasm is likely to be. If it becomes too much, just back off a bit and encourage her to breathe deeply. When she has relaxed a little, continue with the massage. You can have several of these short pauses or slow-downs to allow the arousal and sexual tension to really build up before you take her all the way to orgasm, assuming that you have both agreed on that being the eventual outcome. Mind you, if the recipient starts offering to belt you over the head if you don’t allow her to orgasm, you might be well advised to accede to her wishes.
When the actual massage is completed, whether the recipient has orgasmed or not, remain with them to whatever extent they may want or need until they have at least largely returned to normal consciousness and awareness. This may or may not involve actual physical contact, or it may only involve talking or, more likely, listening. It is often very beneficial if the recipient talks about what they have just experienced as this helps many women to assimilate the experience. You, the masseur/masseuse, need to be totally supportive in this process.
Massagers, I wish you happy rubbing. Recipients, I hope you get rubbed up the RIGHT way - - - - MANY times.
You have a wonderful massage experience. Best wishes. Deas Plant.