The problem with a lot of women is that they want to interject. You immediately want to jump in and start sharing your feelings too or at least comment on something. But when he comes out of his cave to speak with you, he just wants you to listen to him. He wants to feel safe. Because it’s so hard for him to talk about his feelings in the first place, he wants to know that you really care about what he has to say. He wants to get closer to you, but he finds it very hard to do so with a woman who doesn’t allow this process to happen.
So if you understand these principles of man-talk, it's going to help you get closer to your man. Isn't that what you want anyway? You're looking for love. You're looking for ways to relate. But it all starts with your man feeling safe. He wants you to listen.
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David Wygant is an internationally-renowned dating and relationship coach, author of the new book Naked and speaker. Through his boot camps, personal coaching and his website, his advice has transformed the dating lives and relationships of hundreds of thousands of people from every corner of the globe.