Why it’s called breakup? Because something in the relationship is broken. Going through the breakup is hard but can’t be avoided. In this article, I will share an important mind set and 7 steps you can take to make the recovery easier. I will also introduce the ultimate goal of recovering from a breakup.
You may find other places taking about how to get over a breakup, but I rarely see anywhere introduce the concept of mind set.
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Why mind set? As we all know how powerful mind set can impact in our life, so does recovering breakups.
What is the mind set? I know how hard, regret, guilty you may feel about the breakup, but I want you to keep this in your mind: ‘Don't take a breakup as a punishment to you.’ Tell yourself:
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- The breakup was not a punishment for something you did wrong in the relationship.
- The breakup was not proof that you weren’t pretty enough, smart enough, or a good enough person.
- The breakup did not mean that you’d cared for your ex too much, or that it was your fault for falling in love with him.
What is the ultimate goal of getting over a breakup? You may think it’s very clear that the goal is to just move on. That actually is your goal, but you should not only stop there, you should focus on how to live well and be happy. As relationship experts said being well is the best revenge for a breakup. Being well is also preparing you for the next relationship.
With the right mindset and clear goal, you’ll just need the following small steps to crawl out of the grief. Here are the 7 steps of how to get over a breakup.