Is Your Guy Kitchen-Shy? How To Turn Him Into A Top Chef


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How you can help your guy learn to cook, plus two easy-to-make recipes to get him started.

Once your man has his tools, Duane says that a good place for him to start is learning to properly sear a steak in the cast-iron skillet. As a guy, he may be interested in the scientific knowledge that goes along with cooking: letting the meat come to room temperature before you cook it, salting it instantly to avoid drawing water out of the steak, drying the meat first with paper towels, avoiding olive oil so as not to disrupt the fatty meat.

Despite your opinions about bargaining in relationships, Duane says it's a great method for getting your man to help in the kitchen.


"Tell him if he can cook dinner, he can make anything he wants," Duane says. He also recommends gifting your man with a copy of Tom Collichio's Think Like a Chef ("It works well for the male mind. It's geared toward basic core techniques.") and Harold McGee's On Food and Cooking: The Science and Lore of the Kitchen ("It's the classic text on food science. It explains the 'why' of everything—exactly what is happening to the sugars on a tomato when you sear it or what is going on with proteins when you roast them.")

Expert #3: Matt Thompson

Matt Thompson, author of The Man Cave Cookbook series, has broken down his advice based on a man's personality type: kitchen-shy, clueless or, even, defensive:

1. Kitchen-Shy: "If your man is kitchen-shy, he may be afraid [he's going to] make a mistake in the kitchen. Start by giving lots of verbal encouragement and praise—in advance of cooking together. Then assign him a few easy tasks that he can easily accomplish, even if it's just filling the spaghetti pot with water and turning on the heat. Lifting heavy pots and rinsing veggies can keep him in the kitchen while you make dinner together."