Breaking Up Without Breaking Down


Breaking Up Without Breaking Down

By Dr. Tranquility – Lydia Belton, PhD, Ct. H.A. for

While breaking up is a part of dating, going back to a single life can be scary. It's time to stop worrying about lost love and start taking care of yourself. By enjoying life and staying positive, you'll climb out of this rut in no time. As Russell Brand told host Liz Hayes. "Sometimes it goes well, sometimes it don't. But if you sort of sense there’s an incompatibility, then in any relationship, regardless of the status of the individual, it kind of is best to go separate ways."


Here are four tips to help you get back on the horse and have fun while doing it. Let's start with our post breakup tips.

Related: Letting Go of Past Loves

1. Don't call them under any circumstances

Once more, don't call them under any circumstances. If you're a woman - and you know who you are - just say no. We have a need to communicate our feelings. It is our way of processing. This is not as true for men. Write a simple e-mail, which states your feelings factually without gushing. Keep it as short as possible. Using bullet points can be helpful to keep you on point. If it truly has been a loving relationship they will eventually call you, if only to say hello and wrap up any loose ends. At this point, you may be concerned it will be too late. You will be looking ahead to a new relationship. It may very well be too late. That is their problem, they blew it. This is why you don't sit around pining!

Related: 6 Things Women Should Never Do In A Divorce

2. Occupy your darn time

Book yourself up continuously. Now is a great time to hang with friends, go to dinner, go to the movies, stay home and watch your favorite show with the girls and, even better, popcorn. Try wine tastings, spas and gallery events. You name it! It's also good to hang out with your male friends. Get some of that testosterone energy to keep you strong and reduce the sobbing. You will be less tempted to call him as well.

3. Date like crazy