The blogger and newly-minted author speaks out about happy singledom.
What's the best relationship advice you've ever received?
My dad told me once that not all soulmates end up together. In fact, he said they usually don't, but that it doesn't mean that the person didn't love you, or that they weren't significant or changed your life. And I've found that to be so true, time and again, as I get older. Sometimes, bottom line, the timing is off or the situation isn't quite right and no matter how much two people might mean to each other, they just can't be together. It used to seem so sad to me, but now I accept it as one of the really unexplainable, but also really beautiful facts of life. Sometimes I think love can just be too overpowering, too magical, too bright of a spark … that it's bound to burn out. Whether we like it or not, the relationships that end tend to be the ones that teach us the most about ourselves. And I like to think that's all a part of the plan.
In your experience, when it comes to romantic relationships, what is the biggest difference between men and women?
I think men really are as simple as they proclaim to be and women want to make them more complicated, because we tend to be more complicated. We tend to be overthinkers and overplanners, and we always have something deeper going on that we may or may not be willing to share. And I count myself in that category, 100-percent. The thing we have to remember is men don't usually have a hidden agenda. What you see is what you get. If they're coming around and calling and texting and showing interest … chances are, they're interested. If they're not … they're not. It really is that simple. Don't overcomplicate things too much. That's where I think the big gap between men and women lies. Women don't want to admit to ourselves that maybe a man really is just not that into us, so we try to blame everything else under the sun for his lack of interest, when really … his behavior is sending us all the clues we need. Don't go looking for clues when they're staring you right in the face, ladies. Accept that with most men, what you see is what you get. It will make your life so much simpler!
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