You and your best friend are usually inseparable: you laugh until you cry, lie side by side on the beach all day and even pluck each other’s eyebrows. So when she finds Mr. Right, it’s easy to find yourself left in the dust. You no longer hang out, and the only time you see her is when you accidentally bump into her while she’s hand in hand with her boyfriend at the mall. While it’s perfectly normal to have that “can’t get enough” feeling when a relationship begins, it’s not okay for a friend to leave you out of their life because you’ve been replaced by someone else. Here are some ways you can help them find a balance between love for you and love for their partner:
1. Let them go through their honeymoon phase: When two people meet and the chemistry is tangible, it’s hard to rip them apart, especially in the beginning. Every couple goes through what is called a “honeymoon phase,” where they want to spend every waking moment with each other. As a best friend, know that every phase has an expiration date. As soon as your friend has their first fight with their partner, they’re sure to come running back to you. Of course, it’s important to be cautious in welcoming them back. Make sure they know that their sudden absence has hurt you and that they need to make more time for you for your friendship to continue.
2. Remind her that her world does not revolve around him: When a friend begins dating, their mind is in a fog. It can be important to pull them outside of their head and put them in your position. Chances are they wouldn’t like to be ignored by their best friend the way you’ve been. If you put your situation in perspective, they’ll gain a deeper appreciation for you, which is sure to repair your relationship.
3. Pick a day of the week to have BFF day: Since your friend’s beau is occupying most of their time and almost every thought, you two need to sit down and set out a day for yourselves. As much as your friend loves their partner, it’s likely that they’re growing tired of hanging out with them all the time. For example, a woman can only spend so much time in the ‘man cave’ before she realizes she needs hair and nail treatments every now and then. Picking a set day to hang out every week is a way to ensure that you will never lose touch. Go out to eat, gossip or even talk about the ins and outs of your friend’s relationship. Just don’t let their significant other interrupt in any way.