I can't shake this feeling


Thinking and feeling like I'm in love with a man who basically doesn't want what I want.

I've been dating this guy, well seeing this guy for 10 months and while I thought we we're heading towards something we were actually heading towards...nothing. I've been in my feelings for a while now, but I don't feel that things are exactly the same. I don't feel obligated to be in a relationship, but I'm a relationship type of chick. I don't know if he doesn't want a relationship with just me or a relationship at all. I'm beginning to go into a phase where I'm sad all the time. I have strong feelings for this man. I love this man but I feel like he doesn't love me back. Its surprising to me that a person can be quick to tell me to just get over it and walk away but I only wish it was that easy. How do you have feelings for someone who doesn't have feelings for you? I feel so bland and blank. I'm not the most willing person when it comes to my emotions and letting people close to me. When I met him I felt like the bond the chemistry the attraction between us was never ending.Now I feel like I would be the perfect friend for him. Like I don't matter anymore. Like I have no special place. Like he doesn't want me as any of the things I thought I would be to him. I feel like I've been lead on down a tunnel and then someone turned the lights off on me. I don't want to feel like this anymore. I don't want to be in this place with this man with these feelings anymore. I hate feeling like I'm forcing something that is never going to happen. I hate that I've done so much at risked so much and put so much on the line for someone who is never going to want me. Am I dumb or am I just in too deep?

........Jonathan Perez


Expert advice

Save your breath because you only need two words to make him commit.
Are you REALLY thinking about their happiness?
If you keep finding yourself in heartbreaking, dead end relationships, listen up.
It seems like you can't do anything right.