When trying to get your ex back, the no contact rule with an ex is an extremely integral part of the strategy. Many people don't realize this and often question, "Does The No Contact Rule Work?" What's worse is not knowing why the no contact rule works or why?
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1. Damage Control!
Don't deny that break ups are extremely emotional, but for the one who was broken up with, it's a nightmare. Being dumped or rejected sucks. Some can handle it better than others, but many take a huge hit to the ego and pride.
It's quite common to be doubting your self worth shortly after a break up, and it's quite common to feel a barrage of negative emotions such as confusion, frustration, depression, panic and anger.
This can lead you to some really irrational behaviors. Are you constantly calling, emailing, or texting your ex to try to convince them they're wrong about breaking up with you? Do you beg or cry for another chance, or try to buy them back with gifts? Are you trying to win them back by constantly doing overly nice things for them and always being there for your ex?
If you're doing any of the above, I can bet that none of the above methods are working for you. Actually, the only thing you're doing is giving your ex a huge ego boost while making them lose even more attraction and respect for you. All the above is what's called being needy and desperate, and those two qualities are never attractive.
Yes, it's quite common to be in panic mode shortly after being dumped, and this panic mode can have disastrous consequences. What happens when things don't go your way? You're trying so hard to win them back, but have you noticed you're only pushing them further away? Think that won't make you frustrated? Trust me, it will! Guess what happens next?
If you guessed lashing out at your ex happens next, you're correct! But what's worse is that if you're constantly harassing your ex with repeated calls, texts, and emails there's a good chance you're ex will get frustrated and annoyed with you first. The no contact rule keeps you from committing damaging mistakes, as well as doing and saying things you may regret later.
2. Helps To Get Yourself Back!
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Okay, let's be honest here. After a break up, you're not really yourself anymore. You're more than likely depressed and heart broken, needy, desperate, and just a mess.
Healing and moving on from the break up is paramount, and it has to be done. The more you stay in contact with your ex, the longer you are delaying this healing process. There's no way you can re-attract your ex again when you're not in an attractive state of mind.
I've heard countless stories from my newsletter members about how they cannot live without their ex or how he or she is the perfect one and how they'll never find anyone else better than them. Does this sound attractive?