“A crazy cocktail of denial, anger, grief and complete loss of self esteem.” This is how I felt when I discovered my husband had an affair with his (not attractive) co-worker. I immediately wanted to know EVERYTHING about his infidelity.
Where, when, why and how? How could he do this to me? What did he tell her about me, about our relationship? Do they have their little secrets that I know nothing about? Why did he do it? What does she have that I don’t? How exactly does he feel about her? Do other people know about it and I’m the only fool that didn’t know?
When Confronted, a Cheating Husband Will (Probably) Lie in Your Face
My husband did what most cheating spouses do when they are confronted about their infidelity. He lied, and then he lied some more. At first he denied the whole thing, and only admitted after I showed him evidence. Then, he started lying about the details of the affair, or simply refusing to answer my (million) questions about the affair details (I later learned that there’s a RIGHT way to confront a cheater).
I needed him to be open, honest and admit all his wrong doings. I needed him to not run away from my hurt and help me cope with my nightmare.
But he kept saying that he doesn’t want to talk about it. Whenever I tried to get the truth I so desperately needed, he became defensive and looked like a caged animal. He claimed that he doesn’t want to hurt me any further by telling me all the details.
Looking back, I think he was right... Keep reading here - http://www.how-to-save-marriage.org/husband-had-an-affair/