5. Know your audience. Being on the recipient end of a sext is really rather ego-boosting, and when people get a steamy sext message, they are likely to want to "show off" by sharing it with friends. Before you send a sext, keep in mind that there's potential for it to be shared amongst your guy's friends. Don't say anything too incriminating, and don't send something that you wouldn't want someone else to hear (or associate you with). Keep it tame, if you're concerned.
6. Know when to stop. If you've had some back and forth banter via sexting and then, out of nowhere, the recipient stops responding, let it go. If you text "Why did you stop messaging?", "Where did you go?" or "Why did you leave me high and dry?", you not only come off looking desperate, but a bit aggressive too. When trying to keep someone interested, know that the power lies with the one who ends the conversation first. Just like you wouldn't overstay your welcome at a party or event, get out of the conversation when you no longer have much to say or it's starting to drag on. 8 Do's & Don'ts Of Sexting
7. Delete your history. When you keep various message windows open in your phone or have various texts stored, you run the risk of accidentally sending the sext to the wrong person. I remember once sexting a guy who donned the same name as my brother-in-law. I didn't realize I sent it to the wrong person until the morning after, when my brother-in-law texted me saying "Good night? ;)" I was mortified! By deleting other conversations, you don't run the risk of your sext getting into the wrong hands.
Sexting is a great way to be lighthearted and playful when you're not around your partner. And, the best time to sext is when that which you want to do is on your mind, as it comes off most natural. Just make sure your thumbs are wary of the tips above, and you'll be giving good sext in no time.
Jen Kirsch is a relationship columnist. Check out more of her work on Blonde Bronzed Twentysomething.