Sex toys encourage experimentation - whether you buy them on your own, or he joins you for a saucy shopping trip, the experience of choosing which sex toys to bring into the bedroom opens you both up for discussion on what you both enjoy and in itself this can be an enjoyable, intimate experience. Browsing the range of sex toys at the store will be a fun experience. There are lots of great adult stores around these days that are female friendly and won’t make you feel at all shady. And if you really don’t want to enter an actual store, the online sites have thousands of toys for you to choose from, many with user reviews and ratings that can help you choose the right toy for your relationship. Sex toys keep things fresh - a sex toy is a tool that brings something fresh into your lovemaking experiences. You will both enjoy the anticipation of trying a new type of toy, different vibration modes or different types of stimulation from a new bedroom toy and if that feeling of newness ever goes away you can go on a naughty shopping trip together to choose a new one! Sex toys teach your lover more about your body - a sex toy is an “it” not a “you”, and it’s a lot easier to guide him to all your pleasure zones without ever hurting his feelings if he hasn’t been quite hitting the spot. He will soon learn how to pleasure you in delicious new ways using a little bullet vibrator or a vibrating penis ring, and learn exactly where and how hard or soft you like to be stimulated.
You can guide him along with suggestions like “can you try holding that right here” and “it feels great just like this” without sounding like you are accusing of him getting it wrong before. Sex toys are there when he isn’t - if you’re feeling a bit tense when he’s away from you and you need some good loving, your trusty sex toy is on hand to pleasure you even when he isn’t! A sex toy will never replace the warmth and loving of a partner, but will provide you with a quicker and easier way to reach a climax when he isn’t around. It’s important for women to masturbate and pleasure themselves, as doing so brings on feelings of relaxation and calmness and your new vibrator will certainly help you to reach that place quicker and easier than trying it on your own. Or even if he is there with you, but he’s tired or not quite as interested in sex at that moment, your vibrator will help you reach that wonderful orgasm with a minimum of effort.
Sex toys can make you more interested in sex - it’s surprising how much more you will look forward to sex when you’re almost guaranteed a great orgasm, and a sex toy will ensure that you reach this goal every time you indulge in lovemaking with your partner. If you plan a saucy night in, a small investment in a little sex gadget brings an exciting element into your evening to ensure it goes with a bang. Orgasms are highly likely when you use a vibrator Even a basic vibrator with a smaller motor will stimulate thousands of times a minute in a way that no finger, tongue or penis can. The likelihood of reaching an orgasm when you use a vibrator is highly likely once you find the parts of your body where you enjoy the sensations most. Try one and you will know what we mean!
Faith Attwell is the founder of Passion Online, an adult shop established in 1999. She loves her dogs, her gym classes and of course, everything sexy!