Your husband has cheated on you, but he begs your forgiveness and swears he will never do it again. How can you tell if that’s true? Is once a cheater always a cheater? This is how to know if your cheating husband is a serial cheater – Or not.
You want to get over his affair somehow, rebuild the trust and save your marriage, but constant suspicion is eating you away. All your energy is consumed by watching his actions, trying to detect any hint that he is still unfaithful or that he will cheat again. How can you rebuild your relationship when you’re so fearful of your spouse deceiving you again?
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Suspicion after his affair is very much normal. But some suspicions are reasonable and others are not.
These unmistakable signs will help you figure out if your husband can change and become worthy of your trust again, or he is a serial cheater in the making.
Serial Cheater Sign #1 – No Apology, No Remorse
If he doesn’t even apologize for his back stabbing actions, that’s a very bad sign. If he doesn’t show any remorse and tries to blame it all on you (by accusing you of not satisfying his needs or caring enough), he is probably on his way out of the marriage, or planning his next affair.
The quality of the apology is another unmistakable sign. If he just said “sorry” a couple of times, or avoided the topic by saying “I’ve already said I’m sorry, so let’s not bring it up again”, it’s clear that he is not really regretting his actions or taking full responsibility for his actions.
On the other hand, if he is understating and identifying with your pain, or acknowledging the wrong that he has done to you, and stating that he is fully committed to saving your marriage – He is not likely to become a serial cheater.
Serial Cheater Sign #2 – Not Listening to You
Is he willing to listen to how this makes you feel? Even if you are repeating the same things you said yesterday? Is he willing to contain your pain and emotions?
If not, if he runs away from every conversation about the affair, it’s a bad sign. It means that he doesn’t want to feel guilty about something he may do AGAIN.
If he is being defensive, secretive, lying, withholding information, or otherwise being less than open, there may be something going on behind the scenes.
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Discussing the affair details is very important for the injured spouse healing process, but it has to be done the right way. If your spouse is willing to talk, see this article about how to address the affair details without risking the survival of your marriage.
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