The Problem With 'Mommy Porn'

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'Fifty Shades of Grey' has given rise to the term mommy porn. Here's what's wrong with that.

The obvious corollary is that there is no "daddy porn." It's assumed that men will remain sexual beings after having kids and even into old age, while mothers turn into asexual creatures whose sole needs are taking care of their children. Growing up, everyone knew about their dad's secret porn stash. I first discovered my friend Dacia's father's stash when we were seven. Stacks of Playboys were hidden in his dresser drawers. Bored one day, it was by accident that we stumbled upon them, but once we did we were intrigued by what her father could find so fascinating about naked women sprawled out on furry rugs or bending over motorcycles. Curious if my dad had such a stash, I rummaged through my parents' closet to find not Playboys, but some sort of low-rent nudie mag. It seemed all dads liked porn. So what gives?

"Human sexuality is traditionally viewed through the eyes of a straight man," says American University professor of Social Media and Sexuality, Stef Woods. "There isn't a need for additional 'daddy porn' since men's needs and fantasies are already satiated. As a society, men are expected to be sexual creatures. If 'daddy porn' existed, it wouldn't receive as much criticism or controversy."

Woods brings up a good point. The idea that women are sexual creatures and have valid needs is seen as something of an anomaly by society in general. What the critics don't understand is that women of all shades, stripes, races, and economic classes can and do enjoy porn, erotic literature, and BDSM. Women want to be ravished and adored, whether they are moms or not. Why Women Love '50 Shades Of Grey'