The beginning

I stumbled across this website, signed up and decided to post my first question. My story so far is that I've had one long term partner, who I was with for nearly three years. I recently split up with him because I didn't feel the same anymore, wanted independence and to live my life a little more on my own (I'm still young!). He hasn't taken it too well because it's not what he wanted, he's been texting me alot and seems to be hinting to me to change my mind, but it's already made up.

However, starting the single life has been more confusing than what I thought it would be. It started badly (and in some ways good!) when I slept with a friend from university, after a drunken night, soon after I had split up with my partner. I've known the person for a year, and he's really funny and down to earth so things haven't been too awkward. We've been texting, and also talking about meeting up again. The only problem is I don't want to get attached and start another relationship, or get attached and end up getting hurt!

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When I use my common sense my head says to me to stay single, concentrate on work and studies, and have another partner in a few years. On the other hand, my heart is saying for me to go out and enjoy life, and if I'm having fun talking etc with this guy, then why not! Sometimes the hardest question would be whether to use your head or your heart!

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I can already see myself to become attached to this person, as I am the sort to get attached and in too deep too quickly! I mean, I fell crazy in love with my first partner, moved in very quickly before I even had a chance to think about what I wanted in life.

It's interesting to see how many other people go through the same or similar problems, and makes me feel at ease that my brain overload at this time is pretty normal! Will update soon on my progress!