Add a Little Spice to Your Relationship
By "Ask LJ" LJ Innes. Posted on .
Sometimes life gets in the way of experiencing the joys of bonding with your significant other. Work, family and a whole host of other time eaters can leave you and your partner worn out and unmotivated. If this is the case for you, then it's time to reclaim the passion and excitement that you both felt in the beginning. A little extra effort will bring back that spark and rejuvinate your appreciation of not just your partner, but your whole world in general.
Date Night: Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you should stop dating - each other that is. Pick one night a week or every other week, whatever you can do, to get out and enjoy a little one-on-one time. If you can make it an overnighter, even better.
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Love Notes: Put little suggestive post-it notes in places where your love will find them - inside a briefcase, pasted to the inside of the bathroom cabinet or in the drawer where they grab their shorts in the morning. If suggestive is to over-the-edge for you, then just write something cute like "Can't wait for our date," or "Can't stop thinking about you." They'll get the hint and they'll appreciate the effort. A little goes a long way.
Sexting: If you know how to text, you know how to sext. Send your honey a little love note ala text message. Tell your sig-o (significant other) to put the phone on vibrate, and promise them a buzz in 10 seconds. How exciting, and oh so naughty. You little minx.
Make Your Bedroom into a Love Nest: Out with the kids' toys, out with the computer and out with anything that doesn't say "love den." Most people would suggest ditching the TV as well, but why not leave it where it is and order up a little adult entertainment if that's what gets you in the mood? I guarantee you'll never see the end to any movie. Throw some silky sheets on the bed. Add a little candlelight. Hot, hot, hot.
Dress Up: Compliment your "love den" with a little sexy, silky outfit. Even a pair of heels and some sexy panties is all he'll need to get him going. Guys, you can put on some sexy boxer briefs and offer your honey a much needed massage with the promise of a happen ending. Feeling adventurous? Dress up for a little role play, dirty doctor, naughty nurse - you get the picture.
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Affection: Even outside of the bedroom you can remind your partner that you love feeling close. Hugs, kisses, shoulder rubs, no matter how short, will reinforce the bond between you. It's all too easy to take things for granted, but don't do it.
Everything you have and everything you are together started with a little flirtation and desire. Keep the passion alive and rekindle your romance often. It will not only help your love life, but it will infuse your whole world with a renewed sense of passion and purpose. You'll notice these benefits immediately. Start today.
