Does scarcity thinking keep you stuck in a broken down relationship? Read on for what to do about it
For the past couple of weeks, I’ve been writing about what I call the Seven Dwarves of Smallness. These little gremlins in your subconscious mind conspire to keep you small. They tell you all sorts of reasons why you can’t have, be, and do what you really want. They’re full of lies, but we believe them. They are the sons and daughters of FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real.
They are insidious. They have been so deeply ingrained in our habitual thought patterns that we don’t even question them. But as I just said to a friend of mine, “It (life) will be as difficult or as effortless as you say it will be.” We sometimes forget that our thoughts and our feelings create our reality, but that doesn’t make it any less true.
One of the dwarves, Scarcity, tries to keep us for seeing the world as it’s meant to be. It also tries to make us forget that we live in a world of our own making. Scarcity would have us believe that there is Not Enough to Go Around, which is the root of NEGAtive thinking. And it’s a big, fat lie.
NEGAtive thinking keeps people trapped in relationships that aren’t working for them. You fear that you won’t be able to find another partner, there aren’t enough good men to go around, that yours is better than none. It’s a lie. If your relationship isn’t working, you owe it to yourself to either fix it or leave it. Don’t get caught up in scarcity consciousness, believing the lie. Don’t settle for anything less than you deserve.
We live in an abundant universe and in an abundant world. In our country, even the poorest of us are wealthier than most of the rest of the world. Look around you now, wherever you are. You will likely see an abundance of something: books, trees, grass, flowers, furniture, cats, or something I can’t imagine. Are these things you want, or things you don’t want?
The Law of Attraction tells us that what we focus on, we attract into our lives. What you may not realize is that the Universe doesn’t hear negatives. So for example, if you say something like, “I don’t want more bills,” the Universe hears “I want more bills.” You’re putting your attention on what you don’t want, rather than what you want. The Universe sends you a match to whatever you put most of your attention on, whether it’s something you want or something you don’t want.
Here’s a simple exercise I use for myself when I get momentarily caught up in the lie of scarcity. Close your eyes, and focus your attention on your breath. Breathe deeply and evenly, filling your lungs all the way down on the inhalation and exhaling completely. Ask yourself, “In this present moment, am I safe? In this present moment, do I have enough food in my body to sustain me? In this present moment, do I have a place to sleep? In this present moment, am I loved? In this present moment, can I open my heart a little wider?”
Scarcity sits heavy on you when you cast your fear into the future. When you imagine your future, try instead to imagine it brighter. Rather than worry you won’t have enough, what if you were to trust that the Universe is conspiring on your behalf? What if you decided to believe that there is, in fact, enough to go around, and that you will get your share?
It may help to recognize that there are many faces of abundance. If you think of it in a limited way, it will come to you in a limited way. For example, thinking that you have to earn a certain amount of money to thrive is limiting. Earning money is only one way to receive abundance. You can also be gifted with a place to live for free, you can earn a scholarship for free education, and you can be gifted with free food in a number of ways, just to name a few examples. Be willing to accept abundance in any form it chooses to grace you with.
Abundance vibrates at the same resonance as love, joy, and gratitude. Scarcity resonates with fear. And while you may not feel abundant in a given moment, tapping into gratitude will help raise your vibration so that you can align better with abundance. I’ve created a home study course here that will help you shift your energy from fear and scarcity to joy, love, and abundance. And remember to watch your focus. Scarcity is not real. It is the son of False Evidence Appearing Real.