• Novelty – Novelty means newness, freshness and variety. The healthiest happiest couples are always on the lookout for new activities and interests to build their dates around. They love to surprise each other with a new recipe or homemade romantic candle lit dinners. They become experts at regularly figuring out how to genuinely surprise and titillate each other at least once a week.
My question for you right now is: What does a truly incredible date night surprise for your partner look, sound smell and feel like? What does it look, sound, smell and feel like for you? Does your partner aware of how’ve answered these questions? If not, why not? Novelty doesn’t mean expensive either. In these economically tough times an amazing date night doesn’t have to cost a thing.
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• Eros – This is where the incredible sex comes into the foreplay…er…foreground - lol. Eros comes third on the perfect date-night list, because it strongly dependent up on the effective couple communication and novelty that comes before it.
For example, effective couple communication is also about giving and receiving deep emotional soothing. After all, the best relationship science clearly teaches us that deeply gratifying and lasting sexual intimacy comes by first developing and nurturing authentic emotional intimacy.
Novelty is also the spice of a relationship’s sexual health. It’s so important to communicate changing and evolving sexual needs and wishes.
Do you know what your partner really desires? What does deeply making love look like and feel like to them? What does it look and feel like for you? Are you starting to see how important prioritizing fully transparent emotional intimacy and communication is for building a truly satisfying sex life is?
• Commitment - The emotionally and sexually happiest and healthiest couples are fully and deeply committed to the very idea of being in a monogamous long term relationship.
Married couples for example, know and deeply value The Top 34 Incredible Benefits of a Healthy Marriage (for the whole family). Because of their strong shared commitment to the relationship, healthy couples also value, protect and preserve their regular date-night time.
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Even the busiest couples with kids, know that the world will learn to flow around their special weekly time together, like a large rock strategically placed in the turbulent flowing stream of life’s competing responsibilities and commitments.
• De-Stress – In these incredibly stressful times de-stress (the opposite of “distress” by the way) might almost be placed at the top of the proven date-night ingredients list. Being able to control negative feelings likes anxiety and anger can often be essential to effective couple-communication.
Anyway, most couples simply can’t build, share or fully enjoy profound emotional and sexual intimacy when they’re too stressed-out. So the most effective date-night strategy prioritizes and establishing a state of deep calm and relaxation in both partners.